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So like just to be clear do other youth sports have toxic communities or is it largely cheer? I poked around the AG softball community on Twitter and couldn’t find anything that even holds a candle to the BS that cheer teams get. I’m sure there are pockets of negativity in every sport, but I do not think total strangers are crapping on minors they don’t know like they do in cheer.
 
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So like just to be clear do other youth sports have toxic communities or is it largely cheer? I poked around the AG softball community on Twitter and couldn’t find anything that even holds a candle to the BS that cheer teams get. I’m sure there are pockets of negativity in every sport, but I do not think total strangers are crapping on minors they don’t know like they do in cheer.

I think all star has a weird social media thing because of the glitz and glam, but I believe other sports are just as competitive and crazy for sure. I've heard horror stories about baseball, and soccer in our town puts cheer to shame (THANKS SOCCER!).
 
My sister has been an AAU basketball parent (for both a son and a daughter.) There is definitely drama there too.

See also: dance studio drama.
 
I have a non cheerleader cheerleader! She is so shy except for those 2 mins and 30 seconds on the mat!!
She is in Band, Choir, G&T, and Robotics. But cheer is her passion.


I could’ve handled the actual performance part, I just don’t think anyone would’ve remembered me when it came time to vote. I very much kept to myself and my little group of friends and that was that. I was not a social butterfly and did not have the big stereotypical cheer personality of some of my peers. I cheered all four years in HS, but by my senior year I still got a lot of, “Wait YOURE a cheerleader?” People just didn’t see me fitting the mold.

Interestingly, I think the “non-cheerleader” cheerleader is becoming more of a thing now. I feel like I get more girls each year who excel at cheer but don’t fit the stereotype, and are proud of it: girls in combat boots, girls with tattoos, girls who are hippie chic. Much more variety, and more of the personality type that wants to be the center or attention for a few minutes, but that’s it. I swear, if I’d been born ten years later my whole vibe would’ve been exalted, not ignored.
 
My sister has been an AAU basketball parent (for both a son and a daughter.) There is definitely drama there too.

See also: dance studio drama.

OH MY GOD dance studio drama. How could I forget. I danced growing up but wasn’t super good so I missed out on a lot of it (drama seems to follow good kids).

But my younger sister was super good, largely because my mom pulled her from her childhood dance studio when she realized it kind of sucked and put her in a superior one. This caused tension between my sister and literally all her friends, because her dance friends were also her school friends and they all competed on the same MS dance team.

Things came to a head when they all eventually tried out for the HS dance team and my sister was put on V as a freshman when everyone else was put on JV. This was an ego blow to her BFF, who was used to being the star on their shared dance teams (she’d started dancing earlier than my sister and usually accelerated faster than her as a result, so it was a bitter pull to swallow).

Tension boiled. Bullying ensued. Fights erupted. The (now ex) BFF’s parents accused the coach of favouring my sister because she was “prettier” (which, ouch). The coach was finally forced to show the parents the audition footage and said, “These two girls are not at the same level. I can’t put them on the same team. It wouldn’t be fair to either of them” (which, OUCH).

The ex-BFF spent the year bullying my sister and getting kicked off the JV team for it. Then she left for another school whose dance team was less skilled, her logic being that she could dominate as a big fish in a small pond. But then was promptly put on their JV team as well because my mom had been right: the studio she trained at sucked. In retrospect, it only produced a solid dancer every five years or so, and ex-BFF wasn’t one of them.
 
So like just to be clear do other youth sports have toxic communities or is it largely cheer? I poked around the AG softball community on Twitter and couldn’t find anything that even holds a candle to the BS that cheer teams get. I’m sure there are pockets of negativity in every sport, but I do not think total strangers are crapping on minors they don’t know like they do in cheer.
Hockey here is absolutely insane.
 
Edit: this was supposed to be in response to @CoachTamara [emoji1751]


Yes! Cheer is worse on social media but nothing I've ever seen in person with cheer compares to the things we saw in TBALL.

One example, my son's 4-6yo tball team was playing a team of almost all 7yo and clearly getting creamed. The coach of the other team thru a screaming fit when one of our players was actually able to get someone out. These were preschoolers and kindergartners y'all.

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As far as in-person behavior, everything pales in comparison to youth baseball/tee ball/softball.

We went to watch a friend's son play 8U and saw a dad asked to leave the area.
 
Oh my gosh you guys so I just fell down the rabbit hole on tiktok known as thepatriotsisters and Skolife2018 and I don’t even know what to say. I am convinced that thepatriotsisters have to be satire.
 
Well 2020 has taken Chadwick Boseman. I’m out. I’m napping for the rest of the year. I honestly feel that’s the best use of the next few months.

ETA: Sometimes I wonder with everything going on this year if it wasn’t a blessing in disguise that my mom passed in 2019. I mean obviously I’m sad she’s gone, but had she bounced back from the bout of chemo that killed her, I don’t even think she would’ve survived this year. And even if she had, I’m not sure she would want to see what’s happening. Not because of one lone actor’s death, but just because of like, you know, the world.
 
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