All-Star Coach Has Affair With Girl On Senior Team, Would You Let Your Child Cheer Their?

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What do you think of a gym that hires a coach that they knew had a affair last year (he was married, wife just has 1st child then) with a girl on the senior squad last year at another gym (where he use to coach)? Would you let your cp cheer their? It's a pretty well known gym that hired him, so it's not like they would be desperate for a coach.
 
I would have a problem with it. However, I do believe in forgiving and giving second chances. There would be a reason the gym hired him and he may contribute well to the gym.
 
What do you think of a gym that hires a coach that they knew had a affair last year (he was married, wife just has 1st child then) with a girl on the senior squad last year at another gym (where he use to coach)? Would you let your cp cheer their? It's a pretty well known gym that hired him, so it's not like they would be desperate for a coach.
how old was the cheerleader and was she currently at the gym he coached at when the affair occurred?
 
I am assuming the girl was 18 otherwise I seriously hope someone is pressing charges.

Is it right? No. Does it happen? Yes. Absolutely. Whether you want your kid to cheer there based on that is up to you, but you wouldn't be the only gym where situations like that have occured


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I am assuming the girl was 18 otherwise I seriously hope someone is pressing charges.

Is it right? No. Does it happen? Yes. Absolutely. Whether you want your kid to cheer there based on that is up to you, but you wouldn't be the only gym where situations like that have occured


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Not sure about the state where this happened, but in many places the age of consent is 15 or 16. I know someone who went through something similar (not cheer) and not a single thing could be done to the adult because the child was 16.
 
No I would not allow my daughter or son to be coached by someone that :
1. Does not respect the vow that they took - what is that teaching my kid.
2. Felt like it was appropriate to date someone they coach - that is crossing a line that should never be crossed.

The cheer industry sees this time and again and I think its awful and show not be looked over. If the child was 18 and the coach was 19 I would still have a problem with it. When you coach you take on a moral obligation to teach these kids values and the last time I checked, dating someone you coach or that coaches you was not ok.
 
Not sure about the state where this happened, but in many places the age of consent is 15 or 16. I know someone who went through something similar (not cheer) and not a single thing could be done to the adult because the child was 16.
Hmm I didn't know that. In VA it's 18 and I assumed that was an across the board thing like smoking or voting


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Hmm I didn't know that. In VA it's 18 and I assumed that was an across the board thing like smoking or voting


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Age of consent and age of majority are different. You are not a legal adult until you're 18 or above in all the states, but apparently you are old enough to consent to sex way before that. The police told the person I know it was 14 in some states.
 
He** NO! It shows poor judgement on the part of the gym to hire him. I wouldn't knowingly expose my child to that because she is on a senior team and would prob come in contact with this perv. I believe everyone deserves second chance but uh no, not me!
 
Age of consent and age of majority are different. You are not a legal adult until you're 18 or above in all the states, but apparently you are old enough to consent to sex way before that. The police told the person I know it was 14 in some states.

Is there a "position of trust/authority" qualifier in the States? Here the age of consent is 16 in general, but 18 if the person has a position of authority over you, eg. a teacher/coach. (It's generally frowned upon in that case even if over 18, and many institutions have rules against it due to eg. conflict of interest in marking assessed work, but obviously not a legal issue.)
 
My parents allowed me to continue taking privates with a gymnastics instructor who had an affair with someone he coached (he was late 20s, she was 18). We had known the coach and his wife for nearly ten years and had been present for the birth of all three of their kids. They split and knowledge of the affair traveled pretty quickly, but that didn't matter to me. I was paying him for tumbling and as long as he continued to offer quality instruction, I was happy. I do think age of the child matters. I was old enough to realize that things like that happen in our society, but that doesn't make it ok. I was 15 when all this happened and already firm in my morals and beliefs. If my child was in a more formative age group, I may not allow it.
 
I would allow my child there. One coaches actions shouldnt affect the gym.. Lets say the coach at Cheer athletics did it do you really think parents would stop sending their kids. NO..
 
I have a friend who was 18 and began a secret relationship with her coach (it didn't last). Yes, she was a consenting adult, but as a coach he has her trust and a level of power over the girls on his squad. Not like he could force anything, but like they looked to him for guidance. I feel like he had a responsibility to those girls & blew it.


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