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My mom HATES driving and she said no for this year. I told her that she wouldnt even be driving because I was going to have my grandma and aunt drive me and she wont listen to me. What do I tell her.. ?
All-Star How Do I Convince My Mom To Let Me Cheer For A Team 2 Hours Away?
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Do you have other people that you could carpool with that are from your area?
- Mar 25, 2012
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Unfortunetly, no.
But im going to ask if the gym has a carpool.
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you need to take into account your family dynamics. If your mom is busy and works alot, don't put the extra pressure on her. Gas is also veryyyy expensive, so take that into account. Really make sure the two hour drive is worth it. If you are a worlds level athlete and this far away gym can really further and help you then it may be worth it.
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Maybe there is a car pool at a half way point? Like an hour or so away where you could just meet with somebody. I wouldn't push your mom too much though!
- Mar 23, 2012
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I think 2 hours is a bit much of a drive. It would be four hours a day on top of practice time, which is probably 2-3 hours also. So, you are looking at roughly 7 hours for each practice. If you are a level 5, then you are looking at 3 or more practices a week. That is 21 hours a week, without extra practices and comps. By your pic, I am guessing you are still pretty young, and I think that may be more on you than you think now since you have your heart set on doing it. Is there a gym closer that would be more feasible? I agree that unless you are worlds level you should try to stay closer to home.
It sounds like you have your heart set on this gym, and it is awesome to have such ambition at your age. But, maybe you can find a gym closer that you could love just as much. If you are willing to drive that far, you must really love cheer, so I think finding something reasonably close should satisfy your want to cheer until you and your mom work it out, or in case you cannot.
Good luck!!!
It sounds like you have your heart set on this gym, and it is awesome to have such ambition at your age. But, maybe you can find a gym closer that you could love just as much. If you are willing to drive that far, you must really love cheer, so I think finding something reasonably close should satisfy your want to cheer until you and your mom work it out, or in case you cannot.
Good luck!!!
- Jun 12, 2010
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Ask the gym to see if other athletes live near you to carpool like said before. I'm sure other people wouldn't mind splitting the cost.
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Nikimo actually touched on most of my points- the expense of gas and the time factor would make this out of the question to me if I were your mom. I would not agree even to a carpool, the time spent driving is just too much and eventually would interfere with school work. That is also a HUGE burden and commitment you are expecting your aunt and grandmother to take on. I'm afraid I, as a mom agree 100% with your mom. I know that is not what you want to hear, but it is realistic. I hope you can find a gym closer that you can be happy at, good luck.
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Maybe she knows your Grandma and/or Aunt won't say no to you even if they should/need to/want to, etc. for whatever reason? I could be wrong, but I'm just speaking from a mother's point of view who would know if my daughter's grandma or aunt could/would actually do it even if they couldn't.
So with that said, how badly do you want this? You probably have a good idea as to why your mom is saying no (expenses, time, both, etc). If it's bc of expenses, are you willing to maybe pitch in? Do you babysit? Maybe you can save some money over the summer doing odd and end jobs (or an actual job depending on your age-just not during the school year though-too much to interfere w/school) and bday money from relatives, etc. I know if MY daughter did that (when she's old enough, lol) I would take her request a tad bit more seriously. If I truly needed the income I would accept her contributions to help with expenses. If I didn't, I would accept some of it (and give it back to her at the end of a completed season, as long as school work was up to par) just so she would truly have respect for what she's doing and give it her all..not take it for granted.
Maybe she's concerned about your schooling. Are you a good student? Maybe she thinks your grades would suffer as a result. I know girls at CEA do their homework in the car for the 4hrs. they spend riding in the car (there and back). If there was some way she would be completely assured that your grades wouldn't suffer, perhaps she'd be more willing. I'm not sure how you'd go about proving that though, since this year is almost over with school wise. At least having a stellar report card for the end of year would help!
Maybe she truly doesn't have the time to drive you. Try to find other arrangements on your own (like within the gym) and MAYBE your Aunt and Grandma occasionally. I know I wouldn't mind taking a niece, cousin, or even good friend's kid, at least once a week if I had the time and could afford the gas. If I had the time, but couldn't afford the gas, then that's when you offering would come into play.
Hopefully some of those tips will help! I'm not promising miracles, but they're def a good place to start. Good luck!
So with that said, how badly do you want this? You probably have a good idea as to why your mom is saying no (expenses, time, both, etc). If it's bc of expenses, are you willing to maybe pitch in? Do you babysit? Maybe you can save some money over the summer doing odd and end jobs (or an actual job depending on your age-just not during the school year though-too much to interfere w/school) and bday money from relatives, etc. I know if MY daughter did that (when she's old enough, lol) I would take her request a tad bit more seriously. If I truly needed the income I would accept her contributions to help with expenses. If I didn't, I would accept some of it (and give it back to her at the end of a completed season, as long as school work was up to par) just so she would truly have respect for what she's doing and give it her all..not take it for granted.
Maybe she's concerned about your schooling. Are you a good student? Maybe she thinks your grades would suffer as a result. I know girls at CEA do their homework in the car for the 4hrs. they spend riding in the car (there and back). If there was some way she would be completely assured that your grades wouldn't suffer, perhaps she'd be more willing. I'm not sure how you'd go about proving that though, since this year is almost over with school wise. At least having a stellar report card for the end of year would help!
Maybe she truly doesn't have the time to drive you. Try to find other arrangements on your own (like within the gym) and MAYBE your Aunt and Grandma occasionally. I know I wouldn't mind taking a niece, cousin, or even good friend's kid, at least once a week if I had the time and could afford the gas. If I had the time, but couldn't afford the gas, then that's when you offering would come into play.
Hopefully some of those tips will help! I'm not promising miracles, but they're def a good place to start. Good luck!
- May 10, 2011
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I think the most important question to have a clear and definite answer to is WHY you want to go to that program. What's the issue where you are? Why would going there fix it? Have you researched that gym more so than just buying into whatever reputation they may have (which means youre probably interested in being on whatever marquise team it is that got them that reputation). Have you researched what the coaching style is, will that work for you? Do you have the skills to make that team? What do their competition fees look like? Travel schedule? You wouldnt drive 2 hours for a team we all probably havent heard of and they might travel significantly more than you do now....whats the TOTAL cost of going there (and add gas at 4 bucks a gallon). If you do the math you may see why mom is saying no.
At this time of year I think a lot of people have the "grass is always greener at the other gym syndrome" i would make absolutely certain that it IS greener before you try to convince anyone to drive that far. The last thing you want to say to mom three months from now is, "it wasn't what I thought, and I don't like it." because if she's like me, you're stuck. Once we make a commitment you're there for the season.
At this time of year I think a lot of people have the "grass is always greener at the other gym syndrome" i would make absolutely certain that it IS greener before you try to convince anyone to drive that far. The last thing you want to say to mom three months from now is, "it wasn't what I thought, and I don't like it." because if she's like me, you're stuck. Once we make a commitment you're there for the season.
- Mar 25, 2012
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ThanksMaybe she knows your Grandma and/or Aunt won't say no to you even if they should/need to/want to, etc. for whatever reason? I could be wrong, but I'm just speaking from a mother's point of view who would know if my daughter's grandma or aunt could/would actually do it even if they couldn't.
So with that said, how badly do you want this? You probably have a good idea as to why your mom is saying no (expenses, time, both, etc). If it's bc of expenses, are you willing to maybe pitch in? Do you babysit? Maybe you can save some money over the summer doing odd and end jobs (or an actual job depending on your age-just not during the school year though-too much to interfere w/school) and bday money from relatives, etc. I know if MY daughter did that (when she's old enough, lol) I would take her request a tad bit more seriously. If I truly needed the income I would accept her contributions to help with expenses. If I didn't, I would accept some of it (and give it back to her at the end of a completed season, as long as school work was up to par) just so she would truly have respect for what she's doing and give it her all..not take it for granted.
Maybe she's concerned about your schooling. Are you a good student? Maybe she thinks your grades would suffer as a result. I know girls at CEA do their homework in the car for the 4hrs. they spend riding in the car (there and back). If there was some way she would be completely assured that your grades wouldn't suffer, perhaps she'd be more willing. I'm not sure how you'd go about proving that though, since this year is almost over with school wise. At least having a stellar report card for the end of year would help!
Maybe she truly doesn't have the time to drive you. Try to find other arrangements on your own (like within the gym) and MAYBE your Aunt and Grandma occasionally. I know I wouldn't mind taking a niece, cousin, or even good friend's kid, at least once a week if I had the time and could afford the gas. If I had the time, but couldn't afford the gas, then that's when you offering would come into play.
Hopefully some of those tips will help! I'm not promising miracles, but they're def a good place to start. Good luck!
And yes, I am paying for the gas money.
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How are you paying for it? Do you have a job? Let's do some math on the cost of gas (it's probably more than you realize).
Let's say that 2 hours is about 100 miles, so that's 200 miles round trip. If you only have to go to the gym twice a week (which is pretty conservative in my eyes), you're wracking up 400 miles a week or 1600 miles a month.
If your car gets 30 miles to the gallon and gas is $4/gallon, then your cost per month is:
1600 mi *1 gal/30 mi * $4/gal = $213
$213/month in gas alone. If you have to go to the gym 3x/week that number goes up to $320/month. That's a lot of money for a high school student with a part time job to pay for.
There are athletes that commute two hours to practice, but in my opinion, unless you're a level 5 athlete going to a big name gym (which Top Gun is) with some sort of scholarship, it's not worth it.
- May 10, 2011
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Yes, I think we all have heard of them. Clearly, I didn't know what program you were talking about (must've missed that in your original post) however, you still didn't answer any of the questions. If you want to go to Top Gun just because it's Top Gun (as a mom) that's not a good enough reason for me to put that kind of time, money and mileage on my car. Go back to the questions I asked and see if you have legit answers for them if you want to make that case. To convince me, it would require more than "because it's Top Gun, mom!"I think everyones heard of Top gun Allstars haha
xtremeteal4life
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Thanks
you're welcome..I hope it helps. Only you know the specifics of your situation, so I was trying to address some of the bigger issues I thought a parent might have with it. I think that's great that you're paying for the gas.
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