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Emily Stalions · Jun 4, 2012

Alright so, I just went to my sports awards ceremony at my high school. I won three awards for cheer, MVP, Spirit, and Longevity Award (8 Varsity Letters and 4 Year Varsity Sport Member). Yes, I'm really honored to have won them but what I really wanted was the Football and Cheer Booster Club Scholarship for $500. (You can probably figure out that I didn't win by the title). Now, I have no shame in losing, it's who I lost to. First off, I thought that if I didn't win it would have gone to my friend who has been on the team for the past 3 years. The girl who won has been on the team for 1 season, her senior year and she doesn't even live in the school district. She also barely came to practice. All I'm thinking is she is an amazing essay writer to convince them that she deserved the award. The coaches are allowed to put input in who gets the awards too and my coach and the football coach said I deserved it and that didn't even help. I'm just so confused.

This is hard for me to write though because I absolutely love this girl to death, she is an amazing person and I know she will do great things with the money she has won (well she better). Actually after writing it down I feel a little better, or maybe it's because I'm eating a brownie...oh well. She has a fierceboard account so that's going to be awkward, but I had to let it out.

SO, I guess if anyone else has anything to rant about go for it.

BuegeSmalls · Jun 4, 2012

At my school we had this scholarship award for the people who went thought the youth cheer program and the only seniors that were eligible to win was me, my sisters and this other girl. Well the other quit cheer this year due to an injury but we all know it's because she did not get captain. Me and my sisters cheered all four years in high school, coaches the youth team and were the head coaches for the team this past year. The lady in charge of the program said that there would be no way that the quitter girl would get the scholarship. Guess who got it... Little miss quitter. She only got it (I think) because she wrote some sob story about getting hurt and then her cheer career was ruined and her dad doesn't Have a job (which is a lie, he does have a job) and her mom doesn't have a job (true, but she chooses to stay home. Never looks for work). The only reason she got it over us, according to someone on the scholarship board, It was because of her financial stuff. I don't understand. My parents do everything right, have jobs, save money, paid off their mortgage, have no debt and we get nothing because they just assume we have money. Do they know how much it costs to send three kids to college at once?! I've gotten zero money in scholarships and FASA stuff. This whole scholorship thing has basically taught me that if you do things they way your supposed to (get a job, no debt, ect...) you wont get anything.

GreatWhite92 · Jun 4, 2012

We had a scholarship kinda like that, it was in honor of a cheerleader that died. This cheerleader was very popular. So of course the scholarship was given to the girl who made me quit eating because of the mean things she was saying about me, made me cry during many practices and was down right mean, could barley do a backhandspring, and had to have a math tutor, aka our coach, help her with her tests just to graduate. Instead of me who worked hard all year, never quit despite what I was going through had over a 4.0 and had a full. Of course mean girl was popular and was loved by my coach so she got it.

Emily Stalions · Jun 5, 2012

BuegeSmalls said:
At my school we had this scholarship award for the people who went thought the youth cheer program and the only seniors that were eligible to win was me, my sisters and this other girl. Well the other quit cheer this year due to an injury but we all know it's because she did not get captain. Me and my sisters cheered all four years in high school, coaches the youth team and were the head coaches for the team this past year. The lady in charge of the program said that there would be no way that the quitter girl would get the scholarship. Guess who got it... Little miss quitter. She only got it (I think) because she wrote some sob story about getting hurt and then her cheer career was ruined and her dad doesn't Have a job (which is a lie, he does have a job) and her mom doesn't have a job (true, but she chooses to stay home. Never looks for work). The only reason she got it over us, according to someone on the scholarship board, It was because of her financial stuff. I don't understand. My parents do everything right, have jobs, save money, paid off their mortgage, have no debt and we get nothing because they just assume we have money. Do they know how much it costs to send three kids to college at once?! I've gotten zero money in scholarships and FASA stuff. This whole scholorship thing has basically taught me that if you do things they way your supposed to (get a job, no debt, ect...) you wont get anything.

That's what makes me mad the most, she barely came to practices because she didn't have rides there or couldn't get a ride home or was sick. Also, this girl doesn't even live in the school district, she's no even supposed to be allowed to be on the team or go to my school! It's just not fair to people like you and I who try to do everything the right way and we get nothing for it. Also with the FAFSA thing, I'm not getting any financial aid because the IRS won't release my mom's tax transcript.

Mom2Cheergirls · Jun 5, 2012

Emily Stalions said:
That's what makes me mad the most, she barely came to practices because she didn't have rides there or couldn't get a ride home or was sick. Also, this girl doesn't even live in the school district, she's no even supposed to be allowed to be on the team or go to my school! It's just not fair to people like you and I who try to do everything the right way and we get nothing for it. Also with the FAFSA thing, I'm not getting any financial aid because the IRS won't release my mom's tax transcript.

The only thing I can say - as someone old enough to be your mom is that generally to things like this there is more to the story you don't know. As you said she could have written a great essay, and there may be other reasons why she is in your school district that you don't know about and why they felt she was the best candidate for the award. Whatever it does not change how you feel and it can be INCREDIBLY frustrating - things like this happen more often than not and will most likely happen again in your life. The phrase Life is not fair is probably one that will not make you feel better but it is so true. There will be times in your life ahead where you may be the best candidate for the job but someone else may get it because they are so and so's next door neighbor's niece or some stupid thing like that (been there and looking back glad for it - got a better job). Good things do happen to good people so please don't stop believing in yourself or trying for scholarships and opportunities for things because of unfair things like this that can and do happen. Sorry for your experience... just present yourself with dignity to others about it and bite your tongue while offering a sincere congratulations to the winner and those who see this will see you for the wonderful person you are. Best of luck - and again sorry this happen

BuegeSmalls · Jun 5, 2012

Emily Stalions said:
That's what makes me mad the most, she barely came to practices because she didn't have rides there or couldn't get a ride home or was sick. Also, this girl doesn't even live in the school district, she's no even supposed to be allowed to be on the team or go to my school! It's just not fair to people like you and I who try to do everything the right way and we get nothing for it. Also with the FAFSA thing, I'm not getting any financial aid because the IRS won't release my mom's tax transcript.

I feel like the coaches should have some say in who gets athletics scholarships cuz they have seen the athletes the most and know who is the most deserving. It's just all so frustrating!!! My friend, who's a twin, said that FAFSA expected her family to pay $50,000 for each of their kids (I think a year) to go to college. I'll admitt, they have money, but they have to pay for two kids to go to college, both out of state, at the same time. It's just crazy.

wcsstilldeath · Jun 5, 2012

if this makes you guys feel any better, at my school there is one scholarship given out that is 16,000 dollars over the four years which is the largest one offered. its a big honor to win it so of course every one was pushing. guess who won it... the daughter of the scholarship chair and history teacher.

SmileyRyleigh · Jun 5, 2012

my venting: i didn't get co-captain this year even though i had the most votes because my coach decided "i wasn't cut out for it" I'm the only girl on my team that has been on it since freshman year, i've only missed ONE practice out of all of that, and the girl who got it was on the team last year, never showed up to any practices, never does conditioning, and complains about everything we have to do. She doesnt tumble, refuses to base, fly, or backspot, and doesn't learn any of our stuff. I guess i'll never know why she got it over me... oh well.

and then after all this happened, i gpt moved to the first row in sidelines to the last row (switched with a girl who has never cheered before.. and doesn't know any of the sidelines we were supposed to know a month ago...) because i was "too short and it wasn't proportional"... i'm not in any way trying to say i'm better than anyone, thats not the point... its just that now i can't be seen at all, and its my third year on the team so i just don't think that its fair to be put in the back with freshmen and people that are on the team for the first time...

SpicyNacho · Jun 12, 2012

SmileyRyleigh said:
my venting: i didn't get co-captain this year even though i had the most votes because my coach decided "i wasn't cut out for it" I'm the only girl on my team that has been on it since freshman year, i've only missed ONE practice out of all of that, and the girl who got it was on the team last year, never showed up to any practices, never does conditioning, and complains about everything we have to do. She doesnt tumble, refuses to base, fly, or backspot, and doesn't learn any of our stuff. I guess i'll never know why she got it over me... oh well.

and then after all this happened, i gpt moved to the first row in sidelines to the last row (switched with a girl who has never cheered before.. and doesn't know any of the sidelines we were supposed to know a month ago...) because i was "too short and it wasn't proportional"... i'm not in any way trying to say i'm better than anyone, thats not the point... its just that now i can't be seen at all, and its my third year on the team so i just don't think that its fair to be put in the back with freshmen and people that are on the team for the first time...

I'm not a fan of voting for captains, and the coach should always get the last say. But your coach seems to have an issue with you. Maybe try talking to her? Or just leave. Honestly, it doesn't seem worth it.

SmileyRyleigh · Jun 12, 2012

SpicyNacho said:
I'm not a fan of voting for captains, and the coach should always get the last say. But your coach seems to have an issue with you. Maybe try talking to her? Or just leave. Honestly, it doesn't seem worth it.

i have tried talking to her. but she just gives me excuses. like "maybe you should learn your cheers" (which is funny because i know them all backwards and forwards) or "you're too short to be in the front because everyone else is so tall" . i think the last excuse i funny because she switched me with a girl thats shorter than me. i would leave, but i really want to cheer my senior year (next year) and if i quit then i can't cheer my senior year. it sucks. i work my butt off and get treated like crap. i'm not flying anymore now either....

Nikaa · Jun 12, 2012

we don't have scolarship or things like that here. but we don't have to pay for college. yes you heard it right. In slovenia (and many europeans countries) college is for free

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