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Keep_Believing · Dec 11, 2012

There is a 12 year old girl at the gym who has bullied her team mates off and on in the past. Recently they tried her out in a new stunt. It wasn't going the best. They took her down. The stunts are still undecided so she could be put back up at next practice. After, she said ugly things about our gym, cheer, and another girl on the team. Then she went on twitter and posted I officially hate cheer. She also twitted comments and sent text to another flyer who was left up (while they figure things out) basically blaming her that she was taken down. I am tired of the bullying. Should I mention this to one of the coaches or mind my own business. This time it does not involve any of my own children. I do worry when she spots that she purposely lets the stunts fall hoping that they will take down her flyer and put her up instead. With that said I have zero proof of this. It is just my gut feeling. So, I will definitely keep my gut feeling/worries to myself.

cheermeup · Dec 11, 2012

If there is solid, tangible evidence of bullying, I would say something.

You never know how the other girls who are being bullied are doing in life. This bullying could be the one thing that pushes them over the edge. Bullying is never ok and if it really happening it has to be stopped.

Also, it affects your child if it's happening on her team. When issues like this are going on, it affects everyone.

Cheergurl · Dec 11, 2012

mind your own business........if you say something it just gets worse. It happened to me.

simplyfierce10 · Dec 11, 2012

You need to go straight to the coach.

5-6-7-8 · Dec 11, 2012

Go to the coach.

At the very least, she is posting things on Twitter that may violate gym rules.

Mom2K · Dec 11, 2012

Suggest they take a look at her Twitter and let it take care of itself.

kristenthegreat · Dec 11, 2012

Cheergurl said:
mind your own business........if you say something it just gets worse. It happened to me.

I'm so so sorry. I'm sorry that's the way you were made to feel. I'm sorry that it is often the truth that a bully is praised and a victim is punished.

Callmeboots · Dec 11, 2012

Kris said:
There is a 12 year old girl at the gym who has bullied her team mates off and on in the past. Recently they tried her out in a new stunt. It wasn't going the best. They took her down. The stunts are still undecided so she could be put back up at next practice. After, she said ugly things about our gym, cheer, and another girl on the team. Then she went on twitter and posted I officially hate cheer. She also twitted comments and sent text to another flyer who was left up (while they figure things out) basically blaming her that she was taken down. I am tired of the bullying. Should I mention this to one of the coaches or mind my own business. This time it does not involve any of my own children. I do worry when she spots that she purposely lets the stunts fall hoping that they will take down her flyer and put her up instead. With that said I have zero proof of this. It is just my gut feeling. So, I will definitely keep my gut feeling/worries to myself.

I would bring it to the coaches attention. A lot of times, coaches have no idea that these kinds of things are going on until someone says something. Even if you have no evidence, at least the coach will be made aware of the situation and will know what to look out for.

We recently had to put a girl on a final warning for bullying a lot of our girls, but we didn't know how bad it was until one girl came and said something...then we talked to our captains about it and she told us that it had been happening a lot. We ended up having a long talk to our girls about coming and telling us if someone, on our team or not, is treating them that way. The girl is no longer on the team, but I think even if she was, the girls feel a lot more secure knowing that their coaches know.

If they have some form of disciplinary contract in place, I'm sure that girl won't be around much longer...or her behavior will change. She will keep doing it, as long as she gets away with it.

cheermuse · Dec 11, 2012

Bullying TODAY is out of control, kids are DYING!!. You need to tell the coaches...They cannot and do not see all that is happening all the time. Bullying is allowed to continue because we do not speak out until some child decides to have the last word by ending their life.

Sorry for my rant, but Im a parent of a child who was bullied!

Cheergurl · Dec 14, 2012

kristenthegreat said:
I'm so so sorry. I'm sorry that's the way you were made to feel. I'm sorry that it is often the truth that a bully is praised and a victim is punished.

Bullies are smart, they do things when no one is around.

OnceUponACheerleader · Dec 14, 2012

cheermeup said:
If there is solid, tangible evidence of bullying, I would say something.

You never know how the other girls who are being bullied are doing in life. This bullying could be the one thing that pushes them over the edge. Bullying is never ok and if it really happening it has to be stopped.

Also, it affects your child if it's happening on her team. When issues like this are going on, it affects everyone.

I'd do the same!

GreenStormLucy · Dec 14, 2012

Please go and tell the coach/coaches. If she will continue, it will some day affect the whole team and affect your child.

And if the coaches are aware and know what happened, they will probably pay more attention to this girls behavior.

ufomom · Dec 14, 2012

:cow:

njallday · Dec 14, 2012

this just adds to the reasons why i wish social media was not around for young kids. i can guarantee that almost all cheerleaders have said i hate cheerleading at some point in their lives. it's usually just out of frustration, and you get over it quickly. i know i have had a bad practice here and there and came home and said the same thing. except i didn't have a twitter to write it on and tell the entire world.

it doesn't completely sound like bullying to me, just a frustrated little girl (*disclaimer i do not know the details of everything that has gone on in the past so it very well could be a serious problem. i'm only talking about this small story you've shared) i would say, at least at this point, stay out of it. if the girls she has said mean/hurtful things to or their parents want to take it up with the coach, that's probably a good idea but as a bystander i'd stay back... unless the girls are in danger of something serious happening and then interfere as soon as possible.

Keep_Believing · Dec 14, 2012

njallday said:
this just adds to the reasons why i wish social media was not around for young kids. i can guarantee that almost all cheerleaders have said i hate cheerleading at some point in their lives. it's usually just out of frustration, and you get over it quickly. i know i have had a bad practice here and there and came home and said the same thing. except i didn't have a twitter to write it on and tell the entire world.

it doesn't completely sound like bullying to me, just a frustrated little girl (*disclaimer i do not know the details of everything that has gone on in the past so it very well could be a serious problem. i'm only talking about this small story you've shared) i would say, at least at this point, stay out of it. if the girls she has said mean/hurtful things to or their parents want to take it up with the coach, that's probably a good idea but as a bystander i'd stay back... unless the girls are in danger of something serious happening and then interfere as soon as possible.

I agree by itself it is in no way bullying. This is on top of many, many other incidents. In this incident, she was mad at the girl they kept as a flyer. She said that girl should have fallen on purpose so she could finally have her chance to fly.

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