All-Star Bragging Or Promoting?

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Cheer Dad

Cheer Parent
Dec 15, 2009
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I know we all love our kids and want everyone to know how proud of them we are, but at what point does the bragging possibly cross the line and become begging for cheerlebrity status? Posting more than 1x a week, new threads for each brag, constant videos...

Does the age of the child involved matter?

Thoughts or opinions?
 
I confess! I was the worlds worst for this! I constantly told my kids how great they were and anyone who would listen, I told them the same thing. My son is 5 years old and was attending a Christian preschool. One day, his teacher came to me and said that she was working with him on "humility" He was coming to school telling his classmates he was the best baseball player ever. I suddenly had to accept full blame for this!! It was painful to hear because that was completely MY fault. It's completely ok to be proud, it's natural to wanna brag a little. The reality is, no one likes a arrogant person. My kids are awesome, but I'm having to really try my best to keep my posts and videos to at least just a bi-monthly occurrence ;) lol!
 
The only person who needs to know I'm proud is my child. Therefore, no posting, no video, nothing. You are just measuring your child against another when you post that much. Keeping uo with the Jones'. Be proud. Tell your child how proud you are. But unless your friends and family ask on Facebook or other social media, don't post. You are only advertising an selling your child if you constantly do it.


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I live 1000 miles from the closest family member, so I will post a vid or status update on facebook/YouTube if cp gets a new skill. I will tell anyone who might care (best cheer mom friend, or good friend who used to be a cheer coach). My cp would be embarrassed if I created a fierceboard thread about her.
 
I feel like some parents talk their children up way to much by posting how amazing their kids are doing every time they're in the gym. Some parents are simply just trying to make sure that the world knows who their child is in the hopes that someone thinks that they're kid is as god/goddess like as the parents do. They shouldn't be doing that though. Let people actually watch your child and decide how good they are and let them become a "cheerlebrity" the right way. It's one thing to publicly boost your kid up a little bit ONCE IN A WHILE when they get a new skill, but it's another thing to be Susie's mom and try make it seem like your daughter should be on level 5 when all she has is a back walkover and scorpion that looks like a crushed dorito.
 
Ill post a video to my Facebook (which is locked down in multiple respects) when my kids reach some big milestone here and there (usually tumbling). My family likes to see it and some of my friends. Sometimes ill post it in the "brag" threads because ... Well, that's what they're for :D

But, since I only have like 200 Facebook friends I'm pretty sure I'm not working on creating cheerlebrities.

...or I'm the worst PR person in the history of mankind :)


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It's funny reading this from an actor point of view, because in that realm it's the strategy of marketing yourself without drowning your audience to the point where they tune out.

In my aspect, I typically only post about a major audition/booking/etc. Anything more and I feel like I'm grabbing for attention. That would be like a new skill/cool new stunt I tried.
 
It's funny reading this from an actor point of view, because in that realm it's the strategy of marketing yourself without drowning your audience to the point where they tune out.

In my aspect, I typically only post about a major audition/booking/etc. Anything more and I feel like I'm grabbing for attention. That would be like a new skill/cool new stunt I tried.
But in your case with acting you need the PR. A child in cheer does not.
 
I don't post many milestones or accomplishments. I post cute/funny pics of all my kids and an occasional fierce photo of cp. As a coach I tend to post a lot of "brag" pics and videos of all the kids in my program and I encourage our parents to upload anything I think deserves a shout out.
I really dislike the compliment chasers but I ignore those and the people that post constant brag posts.


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I think there is a line that can for sure be crossed and I admit I have crossed it occasionally. I have a 4 month son and my family lives across the country in a different province and they want to be seriously involved in the everyday goings on in his life so instead of calling all of my family I use my facebook to share things. It was especially bad when he was just born because he was sent directly to the NICU and people were wanting hourly updates. So I think in that case it was ok. But for cheer things, I kind of almost don't think its up to the parent to spread things about their cp, let the cp tell who they want. I know when I was cheering it used to drive me crazy when my parents would tell people what I had accomplished before I could. Its great to be proud of your cp but let them receive the congratulations and the praise for their accomplishments once they have told who they want then you can brag away!
 
Babydonna's grandparents/extended family live in a couple of different cities, so we do tend to post photos, videos, etc on facebook quite a bit. My friend list isn't very extensive...friends from school, family, etc, so I don't know how I'd be "promoting" her with that group, as they don't have any power to "accelerate her career" or what have you. I stick to the brag threads here for the most part, because, as it was said before, that's what those threads are for!
I'm immensely proud of my girl! Babydonna is my only child, so to an outsider who doesn't know this, it might look like my focus is heavy toward her. She's also a kid that doctors told me I would probably never have, so I might look a little "cray-cray" from time to time. I do apologize for the occasional crazy. I have to admit that I do enjoy showing her off a bit if she does something awesome.
I can assure you that I'm not one of those Suzie's Moms who is trying to turn her kid into a cheerlebrity. If she becomes one of those, it will be because of her own achievements in the gym and not because of a pushy mom.
Y'all feel free to call me out if I'm getting "cray-cray".
 
My CP is a talented girl, however I would never want her to fall into the cheerlebrity category, EVER, no matter what, but I did post videos of her on FB to show others and post about her achievements, up until a certain date, because people often ask about her, as well as my other children. However, I have an older son who has been told that I should not reveal too much information about him on social media, so I just post very little about him: ie where he is stationed and when we will be lucky enough to see him and that's it!! I also have a younger son who is very private and prefers to be that way and I respect his wishes and post almost no information about him. I have received criticism about only posting about CP but I feel that I should not have to post on Social Media WHY I don't post much about the other 2- ha ha until now-so I have since stopped posting and responding altogether and may even deactivate my FB account soon because I feel that it may not even be worth it to have it any longer if I feel I can't even respond to any posts without being scrutinized about what I post about, even though I do like having the connection to my friends and their families. I am probably being way too sensitive about it. Sometimes there's reasons why people do and don't post about their families and I do feel that sometimes people post WAY too much information about their lives and there are times when people have accounts for the wrong reasons: just to creep on others. My point is, I think there is a fine line between searching for stardom and fame and those that are reaching for much needed attention; finding that medium between these two is what most people find it hard to achieve and that is what really makes it difficult in Social Media and for these people it's hard to distinguish between being in fantasyland and reality. Sorry for the novel- I didn't mean to preach!!
 
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