If this was your gym, how would you feel about it?
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Although I am new to posting on the fierceboard, I am nowhere close to being new to cheer, or lurking this board :)
I think that alot of people think parents are living thru their kids and that's just not the case. Being involved and living thru your kids can be a very fine line.
I would talk to the coach, with a copy of the rules. It may be as simple as they just don't know.
If that doesn't help, I'm with everyone else- find a new gym.