We also have a slight divide too, and the kids don't want it but the culture of the programs has been a divide. We now have a male coach and he is always coming up with ideas but I flat out said to him, if you have an "idea" for varsity, please let us all know so we can try to bridge the gap. The kids noticed the little stuff and question it, they would not even think about it otherwise. We do not have to "copy" but as an example, the one team had quotes on their shirt and the other did not... things like that... so then the other team feels different... both teams are successful, both go to nationals, both cheer friday night lights... I would just communicate as a program to see what is the best for the entire program, we all want to bridge the gap.