- Dec 27, 2009
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So as some of you may know, I'm coaching at a new HS this year. The girls have been great and have so much potential, but I'm having a hard time getting them to believe in themselves, and the coaches.
They lost their old coach for reasons Im not aware of, I'm a new coach in a group of girls and parents who loved the old coach. It's hard getting them (the parents mostly) to accept me because I'm a young coach, only 23. I feel they look down on me even more so now that, along with losing their coach, under my coaching the girls also lost their league title this past week. Its as though in constantly being compared.
Half the reason i feel so is that I'm pushing their limits this season - they plateaued with the old coach and now I'm pushing them to gain higher skills (full ups, layouts, tucks). With this, they aren't hitting picture perfect cookie cutter routines that they did last year. Last year they went to invitationals with little to no competition and always won. This year as well as pushing their limits, I'm sending them to invitationals where they competed against high top teams they would see at regionals and states if we make it.
Has anyone ever been in this situation? I cut down the competition team and one of the parents said it was because I was "incapable of coaching the girls" ... That really hurt :/. Gotta love HS cheer parents..
I know that if the girls believed in themselves they could be amazing! I've tried everything I could think of, inspirational poems, each girl writing something great about their teammate, speeches, and such. But they just don't seem to believe they can be great? Sunday is their regional competition and I know if they do not get a bid to states (like they did last year with their old coach because their were more spots open for their division - not because they qualified by score) I will once again be compared to the old coach and looked down on. I want these girls to truly shine out their on Sunday but I'm not sure how I can make them believe they CAN shine. Any suggestions ? Any fun or motivational ideas other than what I have done ? ANY help, kind words, or motivation would be greatly appreciated. These parents really have me in the slumps!
They lost their old coach for reasons Im not aware of, I'm a new coach in a group of girls and parents who loved the old coach. It's hard getting them (the parents mostly) to accept me because I'm a young coach, only 23. I feel they look down on me even more so now that, along with losing their coach, under my coaching the girls also lost their league title this past week. Its as though in constantly being compared.
Half the reason i feel so is that I'm pushing their limits this season - they plateaued with the old coach and now I'm pushing them to gain higher skills (full ups, layouts, tucks). With this, they aren't hitting picture perfect cookie cutter routines that they did last year. Last year they went to invitationals with little to no competition and always won. This year as well as pushing their limits, I'm sending them to invitationals where they competed against high top teams they would see at regionals and states if we make it.
Has anyone ever been in this situation? I cut down the competition team and one of the parents said it was because I was "incapable of coaching the girls" ... That really hurt :/. Gotta love HS cheer parents..
I know that if the girls believed in themselves they could be amazing! I've tried everything I could think of, inspirational poems, each girl writing something great about their teammate, speeches, and such. But they just don't seem to believe they can be great? Sunday is their regional competition and I know if they do not get a bid to states (like they did last year with their old coach because their were more spots open for their division - not because they qualified by score) I will once again be compared to the old coach and looked down on. I want these girls to truly shine out their on Sunday but I'm not sure how I can make them believe they CAN shine. Any suggestions ? Any fun or motivational ideas other than what I have done ? ANY help, kind words, or motivation would be greatly appreciated. These parents really have me in the slumps!