MEAN MOMS, you can't sit with us. Sometimes cheer moms can be more clique-ish than the athletes. Not all, but a handful. It's definitely understandable that it is awkward for new people to get to know each other and it may take a while for new parents to a gym and gym veterans to mesh and feel comfortable with one another. There's nothing wrong with feeling awkward on both sides of that situation. However, some moms (or dads) seem to take satisfaction in being snarky to the new cheer parents to the gym or team. Have you ever had someone be snarky to you no matter how you approached them or tried to fit in with them? Whatever you say or talk about they find some derogatory remark in reply? Whether you are the new parent, or the veteran, try to remember that we are all here for the same reason, our child's cheer and their team. She (or he) is part of a team, and believe it or not, parents are an extended part of that team. All kinds of personalities get thrown together and you can't expect to like everyone, but you should be expected to treat each other respectfully for the good of the team. There is no reason grown adults are unable to be civil to one another, other than someone refuses to try the mature path. If you find yourself in this situation, there are a number of ways to handle it. Remember that each person may handle it or react to your efforts to solve it differently based on the personalities involved and the culture of the gym. These are a few approaches: 1. Say something to the snarky parent to try and work it out. Don't be confrontational though. No one responds well to that. 2. Say something to the team mom either for advice or intervention. 3. Say something to the gym owner. 4. Try to ignore the snarky parent, maybe they will stop after a while as it may be their way of testing you. Maybe they won't stop because it's possible they are bullies (remember bullies sometimes continue bullying into adulthood) and they enjoy excluding other parents. If they won't stop, then use other options listed. 5. Ask advice from others, but not every. single. person. in the gym. Try not to be gossipy or complaining. No one wants cheer momma drama. 6. Important! Coaches do not want to be involved and really don't have the time as they are focused on making the team as successful as possible. Try your best not to involve the coaches in cheer momma drama. Gym owners or managers should be your go to. Unless the gym has specifically told you to go to coaches first (my guess is that gyms would ask you to go to the team mom first). 7. You can always drop and run. Don't stay and watch practice if necessary. Go do something fun for you while your athlete is at practice. That's a guarantee that you won't get involved in drama. 8. Vent to a friend if needed but still be respectful. 9. Hang in there for the season. It will be over before you know it. ALWAYS be positive around your athlete. 10. Finally, if you are that mom or dad, stop it. Its ugly. Yes there are times that you will have to be in the same room as THAT mom. These options may or may not work in all situations. What are some things that you have done that have worked for you if you have experienced this, whether it was being excluded or being treated in a snarky way?