Now An Ex-cheer Mom

Discussion in 'Allstar Cheerleading' started by DonnaM, Aug 16, 2019.

  1. DonnaM

    DonnaM I Fierce Board instead of work/study

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    At least for now. After struggling with knee pain since about UCA last year, and three other doctors as it increasingly got worse dismissing it as growth related, no big deal, CP saw the sports chiropractor that works with the University cheer and pom teams, and he definitely doesn't think it is no big deal. Apparently he's growth spurt has pulled her muscles and tendons so tight that her knee is actually dislocating and relocating slightly, and as a result, she has a lot of pain. She's out for two months to rehab and then reevaluate. After talking to her coaches and the athletic director, they released her from her contract for this season. She's welcome to walk back on (and, as the athletic director put it, we have a big credit on the books when she is ready to start taking classes again, so she can come and work back up to it when she is ready), but for this season, she's out of cheer. She will be doing therapy several times a week, and will be doing low impact activities at the city rec center, like swimming. They will work with a doctor's recommendation.

    She's depressed, but she also seems validated-she has been struggling emotionally as it got harder physically becsuse she just can't do what she could do even a few months ago. And she hates quitting anything. But having her coaches tell her that this is what she needs to do helps a lot. And chronic knee pain at 14 isn't a good thing.


    After 10 years as a cheer mom, I think I feel as confused and adrift as she does. I knew she would be leaving the sport eventually, and I looked forward to the days of less driving and waiting, but I hadn't expected it to come so soon.
     
  2. 123jump4!

    123jump4! I have my own cheer message board

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    That must be hard getting used to, for both of you! :(

    Hope her knees get better soon. That's the most important thing! Whether she cheers again or not is secondary but hopefully she will.
     
  3. Sterling von Shimmer

    Sterling von Shimmer I named my pet Sir Fierce-a-lot

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    Boooo I’m so sorry :(

    But this is what’s best for her in the long run. From what you’ve told us, it sounds like she’s got a great career ahead of her. Better to have her sit out for two months instead of dealing with chronic pain for the rest of her life. I know it can be hard for kids to think ahead in those terms — I didn’t even like skipping the gym for a day or two when I had the flu back in my day — but she’ll be better for it in the long run.
     
  4. quietmom

    quietmom Slow your roll, Sparkle.

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    Take some of the money you are now saving due to being retired, and go do something fun for her and you and the rest of your family!
     
  5. kewpiekid

    kewpiekid I'm new. Don't Hurt Me

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    That must be really hard, but I am also glad they are taking this seriously. Maybe the two of you can take a special trip someplace.
     
  6. SL&AM

    SL&AM Slow your roll, Sparkle.

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    (((HUGS))) to both of you! I was nowhere near those years when we walked away and it was definitely different---I was so used to our schedule being set by cheer, that when it wasn't, it was like "What do I do now?" I know you'll find something in time though and I hope her knee gets the rest it needed.
     
  7. DonnaM

    DonnaM I Fierce Board instead of work/study

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    She’s struggling a bit. I think she assumed it would be automatically better as soon as she left cheer, and it isn’t (and coming out of rehab hurting more than she did when she went in is frustrating). It doesn’t help any that most of her friends were posting pictures of their first games with school teams this past weekend. I’m hoping that once school starts and she has less time to be out of sorts,she’ll be happier-and that maybe she’ll find a club or two that she now has more time to do since “I can’t, I have cheer” has been part of her daily life for so long.
     
  8. Belinda

    Belinda There are Cheeropedia articles about me!

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    I feel this, granted I'm older and probably should retire soon enough anyway. But last season I had a constant pain in my wrist (well, more than usual), and actually had a cast on for weeks because they thought it was such a major sprain, then different braces throughout the season, but still competed on it as the doctors said go ahead it won't get worse. This summer I ended up having surgery to actually find out what was wrong, they ended up repairing a ligament.. I had a cast for 4 weeks, and then a hard brace for another 4, so I'm around 10 weeks post-op and still have a very limited range of motion and more pain than before, and it scares me so much. Like what if it didn't even help? What if it got worse? I could've just done another season on it, was the pain really that bad to begin with?? I know I made the right decision for my body, but when you love something so much, it's hard to let go, even if it's just for the moment.
     
  9. DonnaM

    DonnaM I Fierce Board instead of work/study

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    A month in, she's in less pain, but still has enough tightness and intermittent pain to be nervous about getting back in the gym. She still has another month before they will even consider clearing her (and her coach does not want her going back on a team all at once, because it is too easy for such things to become chronic). I think she's somewhat enjoying the time flexibility.