All-Star Strict Coaching

[retiredl5cheer]

Please feel free to search my posts and read my daughter's story. Abuse in this sport is rampant, unfortunately. Parents can change that by taking their kids and money elsewhere.

How's your daughter liking Rays?

 

[justpeachy]

How's your daughter liking Rays?

Absolutely in love. Felt like home the first time we visited. <3

 

[catlady]

Strict coaching is all about execution, technique, discipline and the safety of the athletes and has NOTHING to do with physical and emotional abuse. Narcissism is common in all power positions and it goes hand in hand with abuse. How they look, where they live, the car they drive, the clothes they wear, the people they're seen with, and the need for admiration is very important to the narcissist. When they don't receive the respect, admiration, special treatment, or control they feel they deserve, they resort to child-like and abusive behavior. Only you and your child can determine if you are dealing with a frustrated coach (think of you after asking your kid to do something for the 20th time), or the person with a mental issue that's resorts to immature and abusive tactics when they don't get their way (in their mind perfection) or they want something/someone else.

 

[SL&AM]

Strict coaching is all about execution, technique, discipline and the safety of the athletes and has NOTHING to do with physical and emotional abuse. Narcissism is common in all power positions and it goes hand in hand with abuse. How they look, where they live, the car they drive, the clothes they wear, the people they're seen with, and the need for admiration is very important to the narcissist. When they don't receive the respect, admiration, special treatment, or control they feel they deserve, they resort to child-like and abusive behavior. Only you and your child can determine if you are dealing with a frustrated coach (think of you after asking your kid to do something for the 20th time), or the person with a mental issue that's resorts to immature and abusive tactics when they don't get their way (in their mind perfection) or they want something/someone else.

Yes, yes and more yes!

 

[123jump4!]

There are some abusive coaches, however there are also hundreds of athletes and parents with various skill level and personalities. For what one deems abuse, another may deem as discipline. One athlete may thrive with a hard-nose coach where another may feel bullied. Bottom line, if a coach isn't a fit for your child then you should either request another coach or leave the program - this goes for any sport or activity. If a program has 100 athletes and 95 of those athletes and parents are happy and have no problems with a coach and 5 that feel the coach is abusive, then it's likely a bad fit for those 5 versus an abusive situation.

I agree with most of this, but just because 95% are happy doesn't have to mean the coach isn't abusive to the 5%. Whether it's a bad fit or actual abuse, a parent needs to trust their gut feeling and do what they think is best for their child.

Glad your CP is happy justpeachy!

 

[justpeachy]

I agree with most of this, but just because 95% are happy doesn't have to mean the coach isn't abusive to the 5%. Whether it's a bad fit or actual abuse, a parent needs to trust their gut feeling and do what they think is best for their child.

Glad your CP is happy justpeachy!

Or that that 95% is simply complicit for other reasons. Presence does not always equal happiness and often those who talk the loudest about happiness are the most unhappy of all.