Uncomfortable With Potential Photographer.

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  1. Mer_bear20

    Mer_bear20 I'm new. Don't Hurt Me

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    So every year the seniors on my high school cheer team get there portraits taken, its basically like senior pictures where you go to different locations, but basically just cheer related. Well this year the individual that will be doing our photos is a family friend of one of the team moms, sounds promising right? Well I decided I wanted to look her up online and see her work,as most people would probably like to do. Well I end up finding way more than her business site that displays what she has done. Her personal social media accounts popped up and it displays nothing but racism, transphobia, and homophobia. I am the at person I cant stand showing support for a business that displays such hatred, and what makes it so sad is that she is not even trying to hide it. My parents both agree with me, and said what she says and posts online basically does not look good for her or her business. Well my parents and I end up talking to the team mom that picked out the photographer and my cheer coach, and basically the team mom told us she doesnt see the issue with someone being racist, trans/homophobic because that's their opinions and rights to be(which I mean sadly it is true.)

    Now I had thought was the only one who looked this lady up, well it turns out a few of the other parents whose daughters I cheer with end up doing the same and they had the same reaction and feelings about it.


    So now its basically we get the pictures taken(they are mandatory) or we are kicked off the team for refusal of doing a mandatory activiry.activity.
     
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    My daughter would be kicked off the team.
     
  3. Eyes On The Prize

    Eyes On The Prize Slow your roll, Sparkle.

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    YUCK. The response from the team mom makes me think she holds the same views but is more private about them.

    Can you elevate this to the school board? I am sureeeee they'd just love to align themselves and their students to a business like that with "mandatory school activities". Sounds like something they should would want a say in since they're going to be the ones with the PR nightmare if the situation got escalated and went public.

    Also, kicking students off a team for standing up against discrimination sounds like another potential PR nightmare that they don't want to deal with either. Your school board probably has monthly public meetings/hearings. It might be helpful if the group of parents go to one of these meetings and bring up the situation in a public, recorded setting. The people higher up might not even be aware of the situation. Of course, I would tell the coach what the plan is and see if she backs down first. If not, then escalate.
     
  4. Mer_bear20

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    That's what the parents are planning on doing....and trust me when I say this the school board will not be happy. The coach( who I'm honestly not a fan of ) was basically like its whatever...and went on to say we are being overly sensitive. Trust me the daughter of the team has basically confirmed that they are closest racists and homo/transphobic. The reason I say that is because she made the comment in text that she does not see the issue about what the photographer and her mama said, because it's their right to have those opinions.
     
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