- Nov 28, 2010
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As a coach I can see why the coach was still upset, you interrupted a class and confronted a 13 year old child.
Now I find it shocking that a gym has had multiple parents and athletes complain about this girl and has done nothing. As a parent don't think I could stand by and put up with what you have over 4 years. Personally I would be asking serious questions as to why nothing has been done about this issue since it has been going in for so long.
I also coach acrobatic gymnastics and last year we had issues with parents of younger children and how they spoke to and interacted with their child's 13/14 year old partners. This had nothing to do with bullying and basically boiled down to a pushy mother who thought the older girls were not as committed as her and her daughter, magically forgetting the practices she had missed. This woman spoke to these girls and once we witnessed her verbally attacking them we also found out she had sent them messages demanding to know why they hadn't come to class and one of their parents had already spoken to her about addressing them instead of a 13 year old. We had to have very strong words with this mother and it has been made clear to her if we ever hear about her verbally or by text attacking any child again like this she will be out.
I know this situation is very different to yours but if for whatever reason the coach has failed to believe the bullying complaints then all they will have seen is an adult verbally attacking a child. As a teacher I'm sure you can imagine that you may not turn to sunshine and smiles just because the parent apologised.
I would find out what your gyms anti-bullying policy is and what is being done to address your complaints. I would also be wanting to have a meeting with the gym owner, if they have any sense and experience with children they will listen to you. If they don't then I'd say their are very serious questions about how they are operating.
I wish you good luck and hope your cp's can get free of this bully.
Now I find it shocking that a gym has had multiple parents and athletes complain about this girl and has done nothing. As a parent don't think I could stand by and put up with what you have over 4 years. Personally I would be asking serious questions as to why nothing has been done about this issue since it has been going in for so long.
I also coach acrobatic gymnastics and last year we had issues with parents of younger children and how they spoke to and interacted with their child's 13/14 year old partners. This had nothing to do with bullying and basically boiled down to a pushy mother who thought the older girls were not as committed as her and her daughter, magically forgetting the practices she had missed. This woman spoke to these girls and once we witnessed her verbally attacking them we also found out she had sent them messages demanding to know why they hadn't come to class and one of their parents had already spoken to her about addressing them instead of a 13 year old. We had to have very strong words with this mother and it has been made clear to her if we ever hear about her verbally or by text attacking any child again like this she will be out.
I know this situation is very different to yours but if for whatever reason the coach has failed to believe the bullying complaints then all they will have seen is an adult verbally attacking a child. As a teacher I'm sure you can imagine that you may not turn to sunshine and smiles just because the parent apologised.
I would find out what your gyms anti-bullying policy is and what is being done to address your complaints. I would also be wanting to have a meeting with the gym owner, if they have any sense and experience with children they will listen to you. If they don't then I'd say their are very serious questions about how they are operating.
I wish you good luck and hope your cp's can get free of this bully.