- Jan 2, 2012
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Hello all,
I googled my questions thinking I could maybe find an article or some sort of write up to read on tips for dealing with teams who just cant seem to get it together as far as drama / talking about coaches decisions / the team etc etc.
I came up short so I came here !
My team is a team of 20, but we have 3 alternates so 17 competing
We made it very clear that we were only competing tumblers - alternates would be non-tumblers and can still cheer games and they are still considered part of the team.
We are almost a month into our season and there is constant chatter about our decisions, how they think so and so shouldn't be an alternate - coaches pick favorites - and they just constantly chatter in school and through text pretty much demeaning our decisions and claiming we pick favorites.
The problem is - some of the girls considered to be "favorites" were picked as alternates - I am sure other teams have this issue of "favorites" and it is true that some coaches do have favorites but don't act on them. I know it might be hard for some people to give advice without seeing the actual coaching done but, I can assure everyone - we don't not pick favorites. What I can say is that we have a group of juniors and seniors that have coached since they were in 6th grade and then we have Sophmores and juniors that I have only been coaching for about 1-2 years
I tell them all the time I don't have personal favorites, but I have a favorite type of cheerleader. One that respects me, one that says hi and acknowledges me outside of cheer, one that doesn't break the rules, and does what we ask.
Some cheerleaders for whatever reason don't make the effort to talk to me or say hi to me, ask me how my day is going. There are some that when I initiate conversation "hi how are you" or "hey see you tonight at practice" They ignore me and don't say hi back. I have had a cheerleader admit to turning the other way at the grocery store when I saw her-- but then there are some who come and sit with me and they initiate conversation. Am I supposed to ignore these girls who respect their coach for fear of repercussions and claims of favorites?
What are some topics we can talk about and ways to address this problem without me, a coach, sounding dramatic or causing negative energy between the team ?
I feel that it needs to be addressed in some way because if it doesn't the team as a whole will suffer.
This team has so much skill and potential and I feel like they throw it away because they are too wrapped up in figuring out how they can better assemble and coach the team when they should really be focusing on their school work and not chattering in class.
thanks!
I googled my questions thinking I could maybe find an article or some sort of write up to read on tips for dealing with teams who just cant seem to get it together as far as drama / talking about coaches decisions / the team etc etc.
I came up short so I came here !
My team is a team of 20, but we have 3 alternates so 17 competing
We made it very clear that we were only competing tumblers - alternates would be non-tumblers and can still cheer games and they are still considered part of the team.
We are almost a month into our season and there is constant chatter about our decisions, how they think so and so shouldn't be an alternate - coaches pick favorites - and they just constantly chatter in school and through text pretty much demeaning our decisions and claiming we pick favorites.
The problem is - some of the girls considered to be "favorites" were picked as alternates - I am sure other teams have this issue of "favorites" and it is true that some coaches do have favorites but don't act on them. I know it might be hard for some people to give advice without seeing the actual coaching done but, I can assure everyone - we don't not pick favorites. What I can say is that we have a group of juniors and seniors that have coached since they were in 6th grade and then we have Sophmores and juniors that I have only been coaching for about 1-2 years
I tell them all the time I don't have personal favorites, but I have a favorite type of cheerleader. One that respects me, one that says hi and acknowledges me outside of cheer, one that doesn't break the rules, and does what we ask.
Some cheerleaders for whatever reason don't make the effort to talk to me or say hi to me, ask me how my day is going. There are some that when I initiate conversation "hi how are you" or "hey see you tonight at practice" They ignore me and don't say hi back. I have had a cheerleader admit to turning the other way at the grocery store when I saw her-- but then there are some who come and sit with me and they initiate conversation. Am I supposed to ignore these girls who respect their coach for fear of repercussions and claims of favorites?
What are some topics we can talk about and ways to address this problem without me, a coach, sounding dramatic or causing negative energy between the team ?
I feel that it needs to be addressed in some way because if it doesn't the team as a whole will suffer.
This team has so much skill and potential and I feel like they throw it away because they are too wrapped up in figuring out how they can better assemble and coach the team when they should really be focusing on their school work and not chattering in class.
thanks!
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