MzLyn23
Cheer Parent
- Sep 16, 2014
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not my personal situation but a very close friend and her cp... Here's the quick version... Friend will be "Susie" and her daughter is CP...
So Susie and CP recently left previous gym for new gym with better opportunities... Higher level because previous gym couldn't offer that... Unfortunately this happened last minute after original tryouts at previous gym and was in no way planned... The opportunity arised and they took it after discussing the pros and cons, with me included, for over a week.
Anyway, moving on, CP is young 12-13yrs old so keep this is mind... Social media posts began about their decision before Susie and cp had a chance to speak to the gym... All because someone saw her and made the assumption although nothing had been signed or confirmed...
So of course this didn't fall well with the owners/coaches of previous gym but worse were the athletes of same gym... Accusations and rumors and bad talk start forming in group chats and such... Of course it spreads like wild fire... It's brought to the attention of owners and coaches and apparently dies down for a bit (3 weeks approximately).
Well the wildfire has been reignited and the trash talking and pint fingers for nationals lost blaming cp have started again... So now my question is Who is actually the blame? Is it the owners and coaches for not controlling or not following by their social media contract that they make all athletes sign?
Is the parents for not knowing what their children are doing at 2 o'clock in the morning sending texts or posting very nasty negative comments about a young girl who made a decision to better herself?
Can we blame the athletes I mean they're young so how much can you blame them? they're only going by what they think is OK to do? Mind you there was negative comments from parents and from other cheerleaders three weeks ago and now so it's 50/50...
But it's funny how this type of behavior isn't being addressed even though I even sent a text message to the gym owners a very worded message that I would hope they would take the situation seriously seeing as social media tends to create bigger problems and that this is something that should be addressed between parents and children, and parents need to be more aware of what their kids are doing
I'm not sure about other parents but I know what my daughter does. her cell phone is controlled by me. I have passwords to every app she has. she's not allowed to have any of these other random apps like Snapchat or Facebook or anything like that.
Just really bothered also because the same gym removed an athlete two-three weeks ago as well because of so-called social media bullying which was literally a prank that had went wrong and was taken extremely personal although it had nothing to do with the gym (not defending anyone but trying to understand both sides)...
I told Susie that she should send an email to the gym as well as all the parents that go to the gym with the screenshots so that they are all aware so that the gym owners and coaches cannot sweep it under the rug which is what they had been doing for the past three weeks.
I feel that by putting a finger on something like saying this is something that you as parents need to be aware of. your children are doing this. they are posting negative comments about somebody who left. she left!! let it go Already!!
It goes back to that discussion of I'm sorry does the gym own our children every season so what if Susie took her daughter to try out at previous gym and then a month and a half or six weeks later or eight weeks later the better opportunity arose. is she at fault for taking that better opportunity?
I'm sorry if this causes any type of debate. I just want to know that I'm not the only one who sees that this athlete intimidation Gym intimidation athlete bullying that it's not appropriate and that it shouldnt continue and the gym owners and coaches for the sake of their gym name should step up and try to correct the problem if the parents aren't going to. Am I totally off my rocker?
ETA: (first fixed the whole paragraph thing lol) Just wanted to add, again this is not me, yes cp left the same gym for other reasons and coincidentally it happened a month after Susie and her CP left and also after another girl was kicked out for "bullying".... But my cp's decision was something in talks for months (since back before tryouts... and I feel like I forced her to stay even when she didn't want to because I wasn't sure where else to go because of financial reasons)... in the end she's happy and she made the decision on her own but right when we left before she chose a new gym we sat down with the owners/head coach and discussed our issues or my CP's issues with the gym and athletes and left on what felt like good terms... (I also told her the moment she sees negative posts about her or any rumors to block/delete etc - nothing so far thankfully) this was not the case with susie's CP because Social Media (almost like TMZ) publicized the rumors and so on... regardless I'm happy for Susie and her CP is ecstatic...
So Susie and CP recently left previous gym for new gym with better opportunities... Higher level because previous gym couldn't offer that... Unfortunately this happened last minute after original tryouts at previous gym and was in no way planned... The opportunity arised and they took it after discussing the pros and cons, with me included, for over a week.
Anyway, moving on, CP is young 12-13yrs old so keep this is mind... Social media posts began about their decision before Susie and cp had a chance to speak to the gym... All because someone saw her and made the assumption although nothing had been signed or confirmed...
So of course this didn't fall well with the owners/coaches of previous gym but worse were the athletes of same gym... Accusations and rumors and bad talk start forming in group chats and such... Of course it spreads like wild fire... It's brought to the attention of owners and coaches and apparently dies down for a bit (3 weeks approximately).
Well the wildfire has been reignited and the trash talking and pint fingers for nationals lost blaming cp have started again... So now my question is Who is actually the blame? Is it the owners and coaches for not controlling or not following by their social media contract that they make all athletes sign?
Is the parents for not knowing what their children are doing at 2 o'clock in the morning sending texts or posting very nasty negative comments about a young girl who made a decision to better herself?
Can we blame the athletes I mean they're young so how much can you blame them? they're only going by what they think is OK to do? Mind you there was negative comments from parents and from other cheerleaders three weeks ago and now so it's 50/50...
But it's funny how this type of behavior isn't being addressed even though I even sent a text message to the gym owners a very worded message that I would hope they would take the situation seriously seeing as social media tends to create bigger problems and that this is something that should be addressed between parents and children, and parents need to be more aware of what their kids are doing
I'm not sure about other parents but I know what my daughter does. her cell phone is controlled by me. I have passwords to every app she has. she's not allowed to have any of these other random apps like Snapchat or Facebook or anything like that.
Just really bothered also because the same gym removed an athlete two-three weeks ago as well because of so-called social media bullying which was literally a prank that had went wrong and was taken extremely personal although it had nothing to do with the gym (not defending anyone but trying to understand both sides)...
I told Susie that she should send an email to the gym as well as all the parents that go to the gym with the screenshots so that they are all aware so that the gym owners and coaches cannot sweep it under the rug which is what they had been doing for the past three weeks.
I feel that by putting a finger on something like saying this is something that you as parents need to be aware of. your children are doing this. they are posting negative comments about somebody who left. she left!! let it go Already!!
It goes back to that discussion of I'm sorry does the gym own our children every season so what if Susie took her daughter to try out at previous gym and then a month and a half or six weeks later or eight weeks later the better opportunity arose. is she at fault for taking that better opportunity?
I'm sorry if this causes any type of debate. I just want to know that I'm not the only one who sees that this athlete intimidation Gym intimidation athlete bullying that it's not appropriate and that it shouldnt continue and the gym owners and coaches for the sake of their gym name should step up and try to correct the problem if the parents aren't going to. Am I totally off my rocker?
ETA: (first fixed the whole paragraph thing lol) Just wanted to add, again this is not me, yes cp left the same gym for other reasons and coincidentally it happened a month after Susie and her CP left and also after another girl was kicked out for "bullying".... But my cp's decision was something in talks for months (since back before tryouts... and I feel like I forced her to stay even when she didn't want to because I wasn't sure where else to go because of financial reasons)... in the end she's happy and she made the decision on her own but right when we left before she chose a new gym we sat down with the owners/head coach and discussed our issues or my CP's issues with the gym and athletes and left on what felt like good terms... (I also told her the moment she sees negative posts about her or any rumors to block/delete etc - nothing so far thankfully) this was not the case with susie's CP because Social Media (almost like TMZ) publicized the rumors and so on... regardless I'm happy for Susie and her CP is ecstatic...
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