- Apr 3, 2011
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So this is kind of long and detailed but I need advice.
So my cp is 6 years old. She practices Monday through Friday for a total of 10 hours. Plus more if competitions are coming up.
So to give you info I'm going to have to back up my story a little bit.
A few months ago after a 3hr practice on a Tuesday she complained of her knees hurting.
I figured ok she did a lot of tumbling tonight so maybe she is sore or kind of over doing it. So I let her skip her Wednesday class since it was only tumbling. She skipped it and told me she felt fine anyways. So I was good with that.
The next week she gave me the same excuse but by the next morning she felt good. This problem started occurring about two times a week but always fixed it self. We went out of town for a week so she took a whole week off a few weeks later and I thought it would help and let her knees get some rest. Well we returned and the problem came back again. The reason I let this go on for so long is because she would only complain upon leaving practice but after a good nights sleep she would say they were good. Then thanksgiving approached and she got another week off and now we are back to the same problem.
However, this past week it got worse. She started complaining mid week about her knees (both of them) and this time it didn't subside after going to sleep. On Friday she had a private with her most favorite coach in the whole world. Well anyways they are warming up in the foam pit and on the trampoline and she is doing awesome. He takes her to the floor and after just a couple passes she is almost all tears crying because the spring floor is making her knees hurt. So he agrees and takes her back to the track for tumbling. All night even after the private she was crying and getting upset because her knees were in pain and she can walk fine but any movements like getting up or down or tumbling is killing her. She would not even do a back walkover or anything. Well the weekend ended and she has not over done her self or anything so her knees should be feeling better but there not.
Now I know some of this is going to get personal and though y'all may not care it may help you understand.
Her dad is required by the state of Tennessee he must carry insurance on her. Well he has had insurance on her for a while through his job but just last month I stopped getting child support and I didn't know why the state stopped taking it out of his check. Well I finally talked to him and he told me he quit. So this knee problem as of friday kind of killed me because I was almost positive he doesn't have insurance on her again and yea I can take him back to court but it's getting old. So I decided today that she shouldn't be having this much problems with her knees she is only 6. So I called him and he is agreeing to pay out of pocket for her to go to an ortho. I know this is going to cost soo much money but hey he is the one failing to keep his end of the deal.
Now it's about to get tricky.
I really do believe my daughter is in pain. I can see it in her eyes when she tumbles. I also know that coach she is in love with that was doing her private means so much to her that she wouldn't let him down if she could help it. So I don't think her little theatrics of her knee pain was fake at all. However, she had practice tonight and my daughter still claims that her knees hurt. She told her coach before practice and even though we didn't have a doctor note she was letting her skip the conditioning and tumbling. My problem is all weekend she has been saying she wants knee braces. I know this sounds stupid but I swear it's like my daughter just wants to wear knee braces. That's all she keeps bringing up. So to me that makes me question her. Is she really in that much pain or is she doing it to try to get braces? So halfway through practice I told her coach and said it was ok to make her tumble. On the first pass or two my daughter was crying so hard. Fell on the ground after her BHS and pointing to her knee. She was crying before she even tumbled so it made me question it. I told the coach to keep making her tumble and she stopped crying and was tumbling normal because she realized we weren't having that. At the end of practice I was ready to chew her but out but she starts crying in the car telling me her knees do hurt. I told her that we are bout to shell out so much money to go to an ortho and if she is lying she wont cheer next season. She is telling me she isn't lying and I "hurt her feelings" because I don't believe her. She told me it hurts so bad when she tumbles but if it makes me happy she will tumble on it and not go to the doctor because she doesn't want to stop cheering ever.
Here is my problem. I don't know what to do. I don't know if she is faking this or if she is just saying she will deal with it because she is afraid of the consequence if the doctor thinks nothing is wrong with her. I really really don't want her to be in pain. I love her and I just want to make her happy. My child is great and I don't see her doing something like this but you never know.I've had several talks with her since practice and letting her know whats expected of her and have talked to her more about this pain.
She is certain there is a problem with both knees and I'm going to give her the benefit of the doubt.
My question is what would y'all think or do in this situation? After all she is only 6.
Also has anyone experienced this problem before with both knees at the same time it's kind of odd? Or any other advice or examples?
Lol I'm sorry this was so long and so personal in my business I just wanted to put it out there so you could understand why this is a predicament for me!!
So my cp is 6 years old. She practices Monday through Friday for a total of 10 hours. Plus more if competitions are coming up.
So to give you info I'm going to have to back up my story a little bit.
A few months ago after a 3hr practice on a Tuesday she complained of her knees hurting.
I figured ok she did a lot of tumbling tonight so maybe she is sore or kind of over doing it. So I let her skip her Wednesday class since it was only tumbling. She skipped it and told me she felt fine anyways. So I was good with that.
The next week she gave me the same excuse but by the next morning she felt good. This problem started occurring about two times a week but always fixed it self. We went out of town for a week so she took a whole week off a few weeks later and I thought it would help and let her knees get some rest. Well we returned and the problem came back again. The reason I let this go on for so long is because she would only complain upon leaving practice but after a good nights sleep she would say they were good. Then thanksgiving approached and she got another week off and now we are back to the same problem.
However, this past week it got worse. She started complaining mid week about her knees (both of them) and this time it didn't subside after going to sleep. On Friday she had a private with her most favorite coach in the whole world. Well anyways they are warming up in the foam pit and on the trampoline and she is doing awesome. He takes her to the floor and after just a couple passes she is almost all tears crying because the spring floor is making her knees hurt. So he agrees and takes her back to the track for tumbling. All night even after the private she was crying and getting upset because her knees were in pain and she can walk fine but any movements like getting up or down or tumbling is killing her. She would not even do a back walkover or anything. Well the weekend ended and she has not over done her self or anything so her knees should be feeling better but there not.
Now I know some of this is going to get personal and though y'all may not care it may help you understand.
Her dad is required by the state of Tennessee he must carry insurance on her. Well he has had insurance on her for a while through his job but just last month I stopped getting child support and I didn't know why the state stopped taking it out of his check. Well I finally talked to him and he told me he quit. So this knee problem as of friday kind of killed me because I was almost positive he doesn't have insurance on her again and yea I can take him back to court but it's getting old. So I decided today that she shouldn't be having this much problems with her knees she is only 6. So I called him and he is agreeing to pay out of pocket for her to go to an ortho. I know this is going to cost soo much money but hey he is the one failing to keep his end of the deal.
Now it's about to get tricky.
I really do believe my daughter is in pain. I can see it in her eyes when she tumbles. I also know that coach she is in love with that was doing her private means so much to her that she wouldn't let him down if she could help it. So I don't think her little theatrics of her knee pain was fake at all. However, she had practice tonight and my daughter still claims that her knees hurt. She told her coach before practice and even though we didn't have a doctor note she was letting her skip the conditioning and tumbling. My problem is all weekend she has been saying she wants knee braces. I know this sounds stupid but I swear it's like my daughter just wants to wear knee braces. That's all she keeps bringing up. So to me that makes me question her. Is she really in that much pain or is she doing it to try to get braces? So halfway through practice I told her coach and said it was ok to make her tumble. On the first pass or two my daughter was crying so hard. Fell on the ground after her BHS and pointing to her knee. She was crying before she even tumbled so it made me question it. I told the coach to keep making her tumble and she stopped crying and was tumbling normal because she realized we weren't having that. At the end of practice I was ready to chew her but out but she starts crying in the car telling me her knees do hurt. I told her that we are bout to shell out so much money to go to an ortho and if she is lying she wont cheer next season. She is telling me she isn't lying and I "hurt her feelings" because I don't believe her. She told me it hurts so bad when she tumbles but if it makes me happy she will tumble on it and not go to the doctor because she doesn't want to stop cheering ever.
Here is my problem. I don't know what to do. I don't know if she is faking this or if she is just saying she will deal with it because she is afraid of the consequence if the doctor thinks nothing is wrong with her. I really really don't want her to be in pain. I love her and I just want to make her happy. My child is great and I don't see her doing something like this but you never know.I've had several talks with her since practice and letting her know whats expected of her and have talked to her more about this pain.
She is certain there is a problem with both knees and I'm going to give her the benefit of the doubt.
My question is what would y'all think or do in this situation? After all she is only 6.
Also has anyone experienced this problem before with both knees at the same time it's kind of odd? Or any other advice or examples?
Lol I'm sorry this was so long and so personal in my business I just wanted to put it out there so you could understand why this is a predicament for me!!