All-Star Advice To Gym Moms....

[ufomom]

I am shell shocked from last night so I may be sensitive and probably shouldn't be posting. I have been surprised by posts going back and forth. We all come from different places in life. Just because someone posts something, they are not downing your life.

 

[Just-a-Mom]

I am shell shocked from last night so I may be sensitive and probably shouldn't be posting. I have been surprised by posts going back and forth. We all come from different places in life. Just because someone posts something, they are not downing your life.

I agree and I am probably hypersensitive right now because of non-cheer issues going on. But the flip side of that is that not everyone appreciates being told they are parenting wrong and should do it this way (which is very much how it sounds when you post a list of do's and don't's for parents to follow, as opposed to posting what your own personal experience is and what YOU do). I didn't take it so much as "downing" my life as just disregarding it.

I'm still sticking with what I've said this whole time - how you say it matters.

 

[cheermeup]

I agree and I am probably hypersensitive right now because of non-cheer issues going on. But the flip side of that is that not everyone appreciates being told they are parenting wrong and should do it this way (which is very much how it sounds when you post a list of do's and don't's for parents to follow, as opposed to posting what your own personal experience is and what YOU do). I didn't take it so much as "downing" my life as just disregarding it.

I'm still sticking with what I've said this whole time - how you say it matters.

I'm confused if you are posting about me. Where did I ever tell someone they were doing it wrong. You all have attacked me because I suggested buying an iPad.

 

[Mamarazzi]

I'm confused if you are posting about me. Where did I ever tell someone they were doing it wrong. You all have attacked me because I suggested buying an iPad.

Is it possible that Just-a-Mom isn't always referring to YOU in this thread?

 

[mybabywantstotumble]

how about we all sing kumbaya and hold hands then hug afterwards? or we could go back to talking about how we load the dishwasher.

 

[JulieP]

how about we all sing kumbaya and hold hands then hug afterwards? or we could go back to talking about how we load the dishwasher.

I am curious about what else I do wrong with loading the dishwasher...I only put knives down and everything else is up. That cupieqt probably has some good advice, but I doubt she would approve of me washing me hand wash only stuff in the dishwasher's bottom rack...

 

[CharlotteASMom]

How we raise our children is one of the most personal parts of our lives. All these things are simply advice given by other cheer Moms that have worked for them. If it doesn't suit you and your child than don't use it. However this thread is only adding ti that horrible Cheer Mom stereotype that most of us are trying to dispel.

 

[Just-a-Mom]

I'm confused if you are posting about me. Where did I ever tell someone they were doing it wrong. You all have attacked me because I suggested buying an iPad.

No, not about you per se. The iPad thing was because I was replying to your post that I was condescending when I was merely stating my opinion which was the opposite of what most people were posting.

Just the general theme on the Fierceboard is that all cheer parents are crazy and should be stopped. This is not the first "list" - when I posted first it was more of a preemptive "Uh oh...here we go again..." Because these threads always go directly to bashing the moms who stay at the gym as if the only possible reason we stay could be because we are obsessed and crazy, and MUST talk about our Suzy and bad mouth other kids. Rather than that I just like sitting there talking to the other moms - about mom things; I couldn't care less about their Suzy's skills. I just like watching my kid do something she loves, and I like talking to other people my age once in awhile. And I don't want to, nor can I afford to, go hang out somewhere else.

So I don't understand why at least once a week there has to be a thread full of posts that say "Drop off your kid and leave". And there never seems to be any posts of "Why the heck are you leaving? Stay and watch your kid" and I think it's because everyone thinks it's not ok to be "that mom" who stays. And it is ok to be a different mom. So I posted saying stop telling me what to do.

You (general you, not you personally) parent your kid your way and I'll parent my kid my way. Doesn't mean we can't give advice, just means it doesn't have to be worded as "Don't do this."

Because I don't care how y'all intended it...that just plain says "If you're not doing this, you're doing it wrong. Do it this way." I don't know any adult that appreciates a sentence that starts with the word "Don't" or "You need to..."

 

[ACEDAD]

Am I confused or was this thread "Advice to Cheer Moms"? That kind of implies giving advice but doesn't mean anyone has to take it.

The whole flap over recommending an iPad astounds me. I don't have one but having someone say it doesn't in any way offend me and I can't relate to how that is anymore offensive than any of the other advice that I think is silly in this thread and I think there is plenty.

I've had the privilege of knowing cheermeup for 10 years and the idea that she would have intentionally offended or hurt anyone is truly laughable.

All the stuff about her not knowing anyone's socioeconomic status or what some people have to go through to put their children in cheer, shows that they don't know what kind of woman she is and what she's done either.

If I had small children and Terri and I died tonight, she would be one of 3-4 people that I would want to raise my kids (and none of those 3-4 are family).

Because I know they would get 100% of her every day, just like her kids do now.

So I'm thinking we should all just ease up a bit. Agree or disagree with what you want. But try to do it with a bit of class since I know you're all capable of that.

 

[mybabywantstotumble]

I am curious about what else I do wrong with loading the dishwasher...I only put knives down and everything else is up. That cupieqt probably has some good advice, but I doubt she would approve of me washing me hand wash only stuff in the dishwasher's bottom rack...

:jawdrop:you put hand wash only on the bottom rack? doesn't it melt from the heater?

i hat the dishwasher, in fact i hate dishes. my husband does them when he is home but 3-6 months out of the year he is in a war zone so i must do them. i did learn to put all of the forks in one section, knives in one section, spoons, etc. which makes it a little quicker to unload! lol

 

[Mamarazzi]

I don't know any adult that appreciates a sentence that starts with the word "Don't" or "You need to..."

Does "Thou shalt not..." count?

 

[Labegg]

I am curious about what else I do wrong with loading the dishwasher...I only put knives down and everything else is up. That cupieqt probably has some good advice, but I doubt she would approve of me washing me hand wash only stuff in the dishwasher's bottom rack...

My Dad (an engineer by trade) had all kinds of rules for loading the diswasher... all cereal bowls must go on the upper shelf middle row facing backward, never put a clear glass on the bottom shelf, coffee mug go on the top shelf and all the handle should face the same direction...I could go on and on. He actually did an inspection after I loaded it. My mom used to say she would ignore me if I ever married an engineer and complained to her about his behavior. I married an engineer...

 

[Just-a-Mom]

How we raise our children is one of the most personal parts of our lives. All these things are simply advice given by other cheer Moms that have worked for them. If it doesn't suit you and your child than don't use it. However this thread is only adding ti that horrible Cheer Mom stereotype that most of us are trying to dispel.

:banghead: I literally feel like this guy right now. But I'm gonna keep trying. How is telling me "Drop your kid off and leave. Don't gossip. Don't tell your kid what to do" advice? That doesn't sound anything like telling me something that has worked for someone else. It sounds like a list of things that the poster finds annoying in other parents and wants to vent about.

Which is fine, but just call a spade a spade and say "Hey parents: if you are one of the parents that do these things, it's really annoying. Cut it out." Stop trying to sugar coat it and call it something it isn't.

 

[Mamarazzi]

Am I confused or was this thread "Advice to Cheer Moms"? That kind of implies giving advice but doesn't mean anyone has to take it.

The whole flap over recommending an iPad astounds me. I don't have one but having someone say it doesn't in any way offend me and I can't relate to how that is anymore offensive than any of the other advice that I think is silly in this thread and I think there is plenty.

I've had the privilege of knowing cheermeup for 10 years and the idea that she would have intentionally offended or hurt anyone is truly laughable.

All the stuff about her not knowing anyone's socioeconomic status or what some people have to go through to put their children in cheer, shows that they don't know what kind of woman she is and what she's done either.

If I had small children and Terri and I died tonight, she would be one of 3-4 people that I would want to raise my kids (and none of those 3-4 are family).

Because I know they would get 100% of her every day, just like her kids do now.

So I'm thinking we should all just ease up a bit. Agree or disagree with what you want. But try to do it with a bit of class since I know you're all capable of that.

But if you read, the "offensive" term was retracted. I myself was offended by the suggestion of using an iPad, it's simply not a feasible purchase for many cheer parents, me included. Further, you're absolutely right. No one has to take a single bit of advice to heart on this thread. Not one word.

 

[CharlotteASMom]

If people are offended by these posts they would have never made it 7-8 years on these boards. We've come a long way baby!!