Lisa Seye
Cheer Parent
- Oct 26, 2013
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Maybe I'm just old fashioned but.... I will never be the parent who gives alcohol to a minor.
When my son was in the hospital, my daughter called and asked if she could attend an end of school party for 7th& 8th graders. Since I missed her awards and she had no one but her older brother there with her for a week ( as me and hubby stayed in the trauma unit almost two hours out of town) I decided to let her go. Yep I knew she felt neglected so I said yes. Well I probably would have said yes anyway. I knew the folks having it and there were parent chaperones there. So I felt like she would be ok.
Anyway, she finally reveals to me that some of the parents and kids were drinking. She said "mom I don't know if I should tell you this but, OK, here it is." I knew at that moment that I could not react with anger or she would never tell me anything again. She said at first she tried to give the benefit of the doubt that kids were drinking but it was obvious. She also said she tried to give the benefit of the doubt to those parents that were giving it to the kids but she heard these particular parents tell one kid who was very drunk "I'm cutting you off." Anyway she told me the names of several kids who were drinking. She did say she turned it down when offered to her and she hung out with kids who were not drinking but one of her friends tried it.
I have to say I'm glad she told me but sad that there are parents who would give alcohol to 12 and 13 year olds. I told her I was proud of her for not being a follower. I told her of things that could have happened and how those parent were not good role models. I silently thanked God she told me. But I still feel sad and angry at those parents. She begged me not to say anything to the parents or her friends because she doesnt want to be "that girl." So even tho she said no, and told me about it, she still is just a 12 year old who doesnt want everybody to "hate" her.
Would you give minors alcohol? Would you want to be the parent responsible for what might happen? How about the fact that these parents opened the door for these kids to go down this path? I just don't get it?!?!?! And I'm still pondering what to say or do as it has been several weeks since this happened.
When my son was in the hospital, my daughter called and asked if she could attend an end of school party for 7th& 8th graders. Since I missed her awards and she had no one but her older brother there with her for a week ( as me and hubby stayed in the trauma unit almost two hours out of town) I decided to let her go. Yep I knew she felt neglected so I said yes. Well I probably would have said yes anyway. I knew the folks having it and there were parent chaperones there. So I felt like she would be ok.
Anyway, she finally reveals to me that some of the parents and kids were drinking. She said "mom I don't know if I should tell you this but, OK, here it is." I knew at that moment that I could not react with anger or she would never tell me anything again. She said at first she tried to give the benefit of the doubt that kids were drinking but it was obvious. She also said she tried to give the benefit of the doubt to those parents that were giving it to the kids but she heard these particular parents tell one kid who was very drunk "I'm cutting you off." Anyway she told me the names of several kids who were drinking. She did say she turned it down when offered to her and she hung out with kids who were not drinking but one of her friends tried it.
I have to say I'm glad she told me but sad that there are parents who would give alcohol to 12 and 13 year olds. I told her I was proud of her for not being a follower. I told her of things that could have happened and how those parent were not good role models. I silently thanked God she told me. But I still feel sad and angry at those parents. She begged me not to say anything to the parents or her friends because she doesnt want to be "that girl." So even tho she said no, and told me about it, she still is just a 12 year old who doesnt want everybody to "hate" her.
Would you give minors alcohol? Would you want to be the parent responsible for what might happen? How about the fact that these parents opened the door for these kids to go down this path? I just don't get it?!?!?! And I'm still pondering what to say or do as it has been several weeks since this happened.