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Ahhh, I see. Yes, fundraising for your wedding is a little tacky, lol. We have Bridal Showers here but they aren't as popular as Hen Parties, probably because they're an excuse to go to a different city and get, ahem, merry.I'm practically a wedding etiquette expert at this point. You have no obligation to send a gift if you can't make it to the shower. If you want to send one, cool, if not, there's absolutely nothing wrong with not sending one.
Has there been overlap in the guest list between her showers? Multiple showers seems a bit extreme... (ETA replied before reading the rest of the comments)
There are two definitions for Jack and Jills. One is just a couple's shower. The other is more or less a fundraiser for your wedding. You sell tickets to some party, offer cheap beer, have raffles. They're popular in central and western Massachusetts, and some other places as well. They're also really bad etiquette because having a fundraiser for your wedding is rude.
Most brides have a bridal shower though - a party where a bunch of women get together and shower the bride with gifts for her new life together. Usually there's lunch or snacks - it's often a mid afternoon event - and advice for the bride. If you go to the shower, you usually buy a gift for that and the wedding. Though you don't *have* to buy a gift at the wedding if you got one for the shower ( you never *have* to give a gift for anything though).