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[Hodiestoe]

Exactly.

It always astonishes me how much parents try to put the school in the middle if things that aren't "school" issues. This is one (and the school can't punish a kid if what they did had nothing to do with school nor impacted it in any way) and custody cases....

Lawd!

My job is to educate your child, not referee who they're going home with this weekend, call you personally if mom/dad contacts them at the school etc. Take care of your own family drama with your family lawyer...who is NOT me, by the way.



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Oh my goodness this is one of my worst peeves about being a teacher. Yes I will absolutely step in to referee relationships/friendship groups etc, but at some point the parents HAVE to be the ones who take responsibility for their own children. They need to stop placing the responsibility of raising their children onto us and accept that they need to do some actual parenting. If something goes on outside of school and doesn't use school equipment, there is very little I or any other teacher can do apart from referee the situation! Maybe you as a parent should step up and teach your kids that doing these things had consequences and their actions impact others.

I'm in a bad mood about this today as my WHOLE day got taken up dealing with cyber bullying and then I was physically assaulted by the boy who was doing the bullying. His nan refused to accept her grandson was in the wrong and the girls mother expected us to punish the boy, which we couldn't do until he assaulted me. He's suspended for 3 days but gets to return after that-I'm so mad about the whole thing. And the worst bit was I lost the whole of my free period plus my gained free period as my examination class has left school-yes I had a double free back to back which I lost dealing with this issue!!!


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[Cheermom1969]

@Cheermom1969 your way is WAY more effective, trust me!


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Well, in the first case, the father had the boy call me that day and apologize. I could tell his dad was standing right there. I let him struggle a bit with his awkwardness and then told him my daughter is worth more than gold to me and her father and he better make sure he treats all women that way in the future.

 

[CheerBank]

Neither of my girls have heard of this one as of yet. Now that they're aware they will not go near it (my older one is over all the social media crap anyway; it's almost-14 cp I need to stay on top of more.)

As for the schools being pulled into nonsense that should be resolved between parents and their spawn, I remember cp being called down to the dean's office in 6th grade and was questioned about a nasty text war going back and forth between two of her friends. I did feel the school was out of line to ask cp if she had seen the texts and if she had them on her phone. She did, but she told them she had deleted them.


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[oncecoolcoachnowmom]

I never once thought of taking either case to the school since this was done on the kids' private phones and nothing had been done during school. Maybe I'm in the minority but I would rather deal with parents or kid directly than through the school, unless that's my only recourse.

Parenting. You're doing it right.

You really don't know how many personal text war/snapchat wars/twitter wars I have been asked to referee.

It's usually brought to my attention by a parent and they usually fail to understand the school's limitations.

Ex:

There is one Homecoming Princess spot for a freshman girl.
Suzie and Jenny are nominated for freshman court (and of those 2, one is crowned Homecoming Princess.)
Jenny is Homecoming Princess.
Suzie is not. (she gets a "Court" sash, but only Princess is crowned at the game and celebrated at the dance.)
Suzie takes to Instagram, posts a pic of a horse with caption "Looks like I lost HP to Mr. Ed. Congrats!"
Jenny sees it, is highly upset.
Jenny shows mom.
Mom CALLS and DEMANDS that I suspend Suzie for that.

Um. I can call her down to the office and tell her that it was in poor taste, but I cannot suspend someone based on her being upset. In fact, I'm not the Unit Principal or Principal so that's not even my decision.

My thing is, your girls were both on the MS dance team together last year and are on JV dance together right now. I know you know her mother. If this is really hurting Jenny, you can maturely call Suzie's mom and tell her to check her kid's phone.

The thing is, the parent often escalates the situation. They might have been over it in a few weeks, but you went over me to the Unit P, he called them down to talk about it. Now Suzie is super PO'ed about it because she thinks JENNY told the Principal and it becomes a whole year long back and forth game of "Who can be meaner to the other one?" culminating with Jenny's car being mysteriously keyed in the school parking lot.

 

[King]

Installed it to take a look at it. I knew about it because it is how they are leaking a lot of tech secrets in silicon valley. The only people on it I know are apparently gay.

While public statements are great there is no way to police this thing.

 

[cupieqt]

Oh my goodness this is one of my worst peeves about being a teacher. Yes I will absolutely step in to referee relationships/friendship groups etc, but at some point the parents HAVE to be the ones who take responsibility for their own children. They need to stop placing the responsibility of raising their children onto us and accept that they need to do some actual parenting. If something goes on outside of school and doesn't use school equipment, there is very little I or any other teacher can do apart from referee the situation! Maybe you as a parent should step up and teach your kids that doing these things had consequences and their actions impact others.

I'm in a bad mood about this today as my WHOLE day got taken up dealing with cyber bullying and then I was physically assaulted by the boy who was doing the bullying. His nan refused to accept her grandson was in the wrong and the girls mother expected us to punish the boy, which we couldn't do until he assaulted me. He's suspended for 3 days but gets to return after that-I'm so mad about the whole thing. And the worst bit was I lost the whole of my free period plus my gained free period as my examination class has left school-yes I had a double free back to back which I lost dealing with this issue!!!


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Gasp!!! He assaulted you?!!!

 

[Cheer Dad]

Installed it to take a look at it. I knew about it because it is how they are leaking a lot of tech secrets in silicon valley. The only people on it I know are apparently gay.

While public statements are great there is no way to police this thing.

leaking tech secrets from Silicon Valley? What purpose does that even serve?



Please send more money

 

[King]

leaking tech secrets from Silicon Valley? What purpose does that even serve?



Please send more money

People at Apple are fired the second they tell someone what they are working on. But they are so geeked out on what they are working on they want a way to leak secrets.

 

[cheerKT]

My thought on nudes being posted:
DON'T TAKE NUDES IN THE FIRST PLACE.
You wouldn't have to deal with people seeing your doo-lollies and hoo-hahs if the picture wasn't taken and sent in the first place. You are responsible for the pictures YOU TAKE. If you pose in the mirror for that picture and you aren't wearing clothes, you have to be okay with someone seeing you that way. You can't trust anyone with something as personal as that. They are called your private parts for a reason, keep them private and off your camera roll.

 

[chyeeaaa69]

Installed it to take a look at it. I knew about it because it is how they are leaking a lot of tech secrets in silicon valley. The only people on it I know are apparently gay.

While public statements are great there is no way to police this thing.

Unfortunately, I think it's going to take someone getting in a lot of trouble for anyone to take it seriously. Reminder to everyone thinking you're invincible with this app. You entered one of your phone number or email. The police can, and will, be able to figure out who you are by either of those.

 

[xomckenzieee]

I think it's hard for kids to understand that the delete button doesn't wipe a picture away for good. There's still records of it and the ability for it to reappear. I've backed up my phone before and pictures I've deleted months before seem to come back to my phone. Don't take those kinds of pictures or videos unless you're fully aware of the consequences of having your goodies plastered all over the Internet. For those that take those pictures and don't care who sees them... You do you, more power to you, I guess.


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[Mom Jeans]

If you distribute naked pictures of a minor it's illegal right? I've seen cases on tv about that, ther was even one case wher girls who took pics of themselves and sent to someone who was taking advantage of them and THEY were the ones in trouble with law. I'm sure though it varies by state but really don't take naked pictures of yourself or any pictures you wouldn't want in Times Square cuz you just never know

 

[FierceIsTheName]

If you distribute naked pictures of a minor it's illegal right? I've seen cases on tv about that, ther was even one case wher girls who took pics of themselves and sent to someone who was taking advantage of them and THEY were the ones in trouble with law. I'm sure though it varies by state but really don't take naked pictures of yourself or any pictures you wouldn't want in Times Square cuz you just never know

Its illegal to send the pictures if you're a minor, and if you receive them and send them on, both of those people are breaking the law. Its considered child pornography i believe.
My 9th grade health class had our school's police officer come in and give us a lecture about it.
There was a girl at my school (freshman like me) who sent nudes to her boyfriend, and he broke up with her later (like a week later), and they fought after their break up and he sent the pictures to EVERYONE. I'm pretty sure he even posted them on twitter. Its crazy. I'll never understand why people send them in the first place, but i guess people are quite confusing.

 

[Official OWECheer]

I feel like even in marriages, people get too comfortable with things like that... you never know whose hands those types of photos could enter.

 

[OLDCHEER]

Susie's parents can go to the police and everyone in possession of that photo can be charged with child pornography. Everyone who forwarded that photo can be charged with distribution of child pornography. Those convicted of the charges are registered sex offenders for life.

I don't like how these conversations always turn into slut shamming. There are many people making bad decisions when something like this happens and the person taking the picture is just one of them.

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