- Jan 2, 2012
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Hi All, sorry for the length but I am in desperate need of advice and I wanted to make sure I explained everything
So, I have been a Varsity Division 1 high school coach for 2 years, I was varsity assistant coach for 1 year, and JV Coach for 1 year so a total of 4 years!
Some of you may remember I posted a petition in here to get reinstated due to unfair circumstances in which they let me come back.
Over the last two years as head coach there have been many many good positive things happen within the program and 8/10 times it goes unnoticed and unappreciated (banquets, tumbling classes, booster club paying for things) but obviously, with sports there is always going to be some negative - and I'm not talking constructive criticism, I'm talking downright mean, nasty and here's where it comes from:
Here's a quick back story.
There are 3 Coaches for Varsity - Me, and 2 assistants - 1 of which works at the school as a resource teacher.
In the beginning of the year 2016 Football we were all on the same page, everything was great but I started to feel like I was losing confidence in myself because it started to be really 2 against 1 and my opinions , ideas, and words were always wrong.
Both my assistants had really poor attendance and while they were there for some things, They weren't there to the point where team took notice and I was the only one with them all the time and I never missed a practice or a game. EVER!
The only practice I missed was for my cousin who came home to say goodbye because he was deploying, which, that's a legit reason to miss
and to make a long story short, there was a lot of things that happened within the season that myself and the 2 other coaches didn't agree on and it really ate me up inside and I wasn't performing as a coach to my full potential.
I deal with a lot of different types of personalities - there are a lot of your typical teenage girls on my team, sassy, defiant, eye rollers, head shakers -- but there are a bunch that are ready to work, respectful, and follow the rules. Every tryout, knowing some kids don't like me, I beg them, if you do not like me or respect me PLEASE don't tryout and then they all walk in the door to the next tryout.
So, with that being said - here's my bind --
My school offers the girls at the end of each season to fill out an anonymous survey to which I then go meet with the athletic director and we go over the surveys.
1st Season Football - Season was good, good amount of talent and skill - didn't place very well at states and surveys Surveys were so-so
2nd Season Basketball - Season was GREAT, team was good, skill was good didn't place very well and didn't make it to states - Surveys were bad / negative
3rd Season Football - Skill was great, talent was there - lots of quitting due to drama, health reasons but Surveys were VERY VERY good and constructive and positive
4th Season Basketball (this past season) - season was rocky, only had 11 kids , and not a lot of strength to work with, had 4 different girls go on February vacation and cheersport nationals and very rarely had a full team practice - Surveys were again, very bad. Worst they've ever been !
The surveys were basically begging for me to step down as head coach and have the two assistant coaches step up and coach.
As anyone would imagine, this is super heartbreaking as we can all agree that coaching is a very thankless job - There were a lot of decisions made and opinions thrown out there that were forced upon me and went against what I believed in but .. because it was me that delivered the decision or opinion.. I became the bad guy even though I didn't agree.
example: We had an injury in the beginning of January and our first comp was beginning on February - I was the only coach that wanted to still go and compete and mark a stunt. The team was divided in this decision but ultimately it was my decision but I also wanted to hear out my other two coaches and they did not want to compete still - so we didn't compete. Well, low and behold an email comes through to me saying how unfair it is .. these girls work way too hard to be pulled from competition and why don't you believe in them? .... this email was also sent to the AD's office complaining about me -- but what no one knows is that it wasn't my decision !
Many times I was thrown under the bus, blame was put on me, athletes were talking badly about me right in front of me, athletes were talking to coaches at the banquet right in front of me about getting rid of me. It was just constant.
So now, I am at a loss.
I am so beaten down and upset about this mistreatment that I just want to leave. I want to leave and submit a resignation letter and just bring to light all of these things.
but then on the other side of the coin I want to say "if you don't like me or respect me, don't cheer"
I don't want to let them win! If I leave, they win -- I am so conflicted on what I should do so I turned to the FB family <3
Thanks everyone
and if you need more information please PM me
So, I have been a Varsity Division 1 high school coach for 2 years, I was varsity assistant coach for 1 year, and JV Coach for 1 year so a total of 4 years!
Some of you may remember I posted a petition in here to get reinstated due to unfair circumstances in which they let me come back.
Over the last two years as head coach there have been many many good positive things happen within the program and 8/10 times it goes unnoticed and unappreciated (banquets, tumbling classes, booster club paying for things) but obviously, with sports there is always going to be some negative - and I'm not talking constructive criticism, I'm talking downright mean, nasty and here's where it comes from:
Here's a quick back story.
There are 3 Coaches for Varsity - Me, and 2 assistants - 1 of which works at the school as a resource teacher.
In the beginning of the year 2016 Football we were all on the same page, everything was great but I started to feel like I was losing confidence in myself because it started to be really 2 against 1 and my opinions , ideas, and words were always wrong.
Both my assistants had really poor attendance and while they were there for some things, They weren't there to the point where team took notice and I was the only one with them all the time and I never missed a practice or a game. EVER!
The only practice I missed was for my cousin who came home to say goodbye because he was deploying, which, that's a legit reason to miss
and to make a long story short, there was a lot of things that happened within the season that myself and the 2 other coaches didn't agree on and it really ate me up inside and I wasn't performing as a coach to my full potential.
I deal with a lot of different types of personalities - there are a lot of your typical teenage girls on my team, sassy, defiant, eye rollers, head shakers -- but there are a bunch that are ready to work, respectful, and follow the rules. Every tryout, knowing some kids don't like me, I beg them, if you do not like me or respect me PLEASE don't tryout and then they all walk in the door to the next tryout.
So, with that being said - here's my bind --
My school offers the girls at the end of each season to fill out an anonymous survey to which I then go meet with the athletic director and we go over the surveys.
1st Season Football - Season was good, good amount of talent and skill - didn't place very well at states and surveys Surveys were so-so
2nd Season Basketball - Season was GREAT, team was good, skill was good didn't place very well and didn't make it to states - Surveys were bad / negative
3rd Season Football - Skill was great, talent was there - lots of quitting due to drama, health reasons but Surveys were VERY VERY good and constructive and positive
4th Season Basketball (this past season) - season was rocky, only had 11 kids , and not a lot of strength to work with, had 4 different girls go on February vacation and cheersport nationals and very rarely had a full team practice - Surveys were again, very bad. Worst they've ever been !
The surveys were basically begging for me to step down as head coach and have the two assistant coaches step up and coach.
As anyone would imagine, this is super heartbreaking as we can all agree that coaching is a very thankless job - There were a lot of decisions made and opinions thrown out there that were forced upon me and went against what I believed in but .. because it was me that delivered the decision or opinion.. I became the bad guy even though I didn't agree.
example: We had an injury in the beginning of January and our first comp was beginning on February - I was the only coach that wanted to still go and compete and mark a stunt. The team was divided in this decision but ultimately it was my decision but I also wanted to hear out my other two coaches and they did not want to compete still - so we didn't compete. Well, low and behold an email comes through to me saying how unfair it is .. these girls work way too hard to be pulled from competition and why don't you believe in them? .... this email was also sent to the AD's office complaining about me -- but what no one knows is that it wasn't my decision !
Many times I was thrown under the bus, blame was put on me, athletes were talking badly about me right in front of me, athletes were talking to coaches at the banquet right in front of me about getting rid of me. It was just constant.
So now, I am at a loss.
I am so beaten down and upset about this mistreatment that I just want to leave. I want to leave and submit a resignation letter and just bring to light all of these things.
but then on the other side of the coin I want to say "if you don't like me or respect me, don't cheer"
I don't want to let them win! If I leave, they win -- I am so conflicted on what I should do so I turned to the FB family <3
Thanks everyone
and if you need more information please PM me