I think it depends on the chapter/school. I know for my chapter specifically we try not to take juniors because our current junior class (mine) is HUGE and we don't want to take girls we know we're going to lose in such a short amount of time.
Age can matter and that may be why they cut you, but if they don't want you because of your age is that really where you want to be? Definitely go back to every house that invites you even if you weren't feeling it, because it can totally change! There was one house that I had the worst experience at the first day and actually really liked the second day just because the girls I talked to the first day were painfully awkward. The house I ended up in I loved from the beginning but not everyone has that experience.
My daughter just went thru recruitment as a Junior. She knows she got cut at some houses because she is a Junior. She did have a full schedule every day though and really loves the chapter she joined - she knew going in how it would be and tried to keep an open mind and give all the houses a chance and not listen to rumors etc. She was willing to try any house she received a bid to, to get to know the girls and house, luckily she got her top choice at the end.
Best of luck to her and her decision! They always say to trust the process because it always works, so hopefully that is the case!
I think it totally depends on which girls you speak to, as well. Today I actually got put with someone from the sorority who is on my cheer team for house tours which was a better experience!
Trusting the process is so true. She just texted me before she now knows which one she wants without a doubt and is very excited. The funny thing is this is the one she said she wanted even when she was a senior in high school but because my cousin is a national chair and my sister was in this one as well, she was concerned that they were liking her because she was somewhat legacy as opposed to truly liking her for her. I guess somone she spoke to completely dispelled that notion because now she is thrilled and no longer conflicted.
It's definitely hard to be in that situation. I totally feel her pain... When I got my schedule on sisterhood day (up to 7 parties), my sister's house was the only house that I had really wanted back and got back. I had a pretty big meltdown (which is strange because I'm the like least emotional person you'll ever meet) because I was worried that they only wanted me back because of my sister. Like crying on the phone with my mom and then my best friend and then just bawling to my Pi chi who was so amazing dealing with me (and ended up being in the same house as me). When I went to the house though, what stood out to me was that I didn't have to lie to them when they asked me how my day was. I could be honest and tell them that it kind of sucked in the morning but that I was really glad to be back. Everyone I talked to had clearly been paired with me purposefully because I had connected with them earlier in the week and I just felt so welcomed and loved there. After that I knew that it was where I needed to be.
Definitely an emotional week! I'm glad it worked out for you, and I will be happy when this whole part of it all is over for mine and she can get her schedule somewhat back on track.
Just checking in and seeing how it is going.
We would occasionally still call it "rush" among ourselves or when asking someone if they "plan on rushing". The more PC version now is recruitment, or asking someone if they were "going through recruitment". I think greek life just wanted to distance themselves from the idea of rushing, pledging, etc., which can conjure up images of hazing.Has all of the terminology changed since the early nineties? The process was called "rush" then, and the girls going through were "rushees." The active member girls who became independent the week of rush to work for Panhellenic were Rho Chis (for "rush counselors.") The girls who received and accepted bids were "pledges." I keep seeing different words used now...is there something politically incorrect about the word "rush?" I know that there are MANY more restrictions placed on things like Big Sis/Lil Sis scavenger hunts and stuff to wipe out even the merest whiff of possible hazing....but I can't figure out what is wrong with the traditional terms. I must sound like an old curmudgeon!!
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