- Apr 14, 2017
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My sister’s boyfriend wants to propose to her soon. We know this because he told my mom his intentions about two months before she died, and she told me. He got her blessing.
But a few days after that they broke up because, my sister told me, they cannot communicate. However, then my mom’s health took a turn and she looked to him for support. Now they’re back together.
I’m just a little worried about her relationship with him at this juncture. I know he’s a good guy, but I don’t know if they’re compatible. And I don’t want her accepting a proposal from him at this point in her life when she’s overly emotional. Couple this with the overwhelming feelings of dread that I know she experienced during their break up (“I’m getting too old (28 lol) and I don’t want to start over,” “It’s better than nothing,” etc.) and I’m just a little concerned about her capacity to make a lifelong decision at this point in her life.
My sister knows my feelings about this and knows that I didn’t really care for how her bf treated her during the breakup. But obviously I put those feelings aside for the past month. However, now that my mom’s funeral is over and things are returning to normal, I’m not sure if I should say anything or just let it lie. Again, I don’t think her bf is a bad person, he just might not be right for her. He does not communicate when he doesn’t feel like it. And — as I’ve told her — she doesn’t have to settle for that. She’s smart, funny, ambitious, and super hot. Like literally when-she-walks-into-a-room-the-odds-are-that-she’s-the-cutest-girl-in-there-and-it’s-been-that-way-since-she-was-three kind of hot. And she doesn’t have to put up with someone who won’t talk to her because literally any other man on the planet will.
So IDK what do you guys think.
But a few days after that they broke up because, my sister told me, they cannot communicate. However, then my mom’s health took a turn and she looked to him for support. Now they’re back together.
I’m just a little worried about her relationship with him at this juncture. I know he’s a good guy, but I don’t know if they’re compatible. And I don’t want her accepting a proposal from him at this point in her life when she’s overly emotional. Couple this with the overwhelming feelings of dread that I know she experienced during their break up (“I’m getting too old (28 lol) and I don’t want to start over,” “It’s better than nothing,” etc.) and I’m just a little concerned about her capacity to make a lifelong decision at this point in her life.
My sister knows my feelings about this and knows that I didn’t really care for how her bf treated her during the breakup. But obviously I put those feelings aside for the past month. However, now that my mom’s funeral is over and things are returning to normal, I’m not sure if I should say anything or just let it lie. Again, I don’t think her bf is a bad person, he just might not be right for her. He does not communicate when he doesn’t feel like it. And — as I’ve told her — she doesn’t have to settle for that. She’s smart, funny, ambitious, and super hot. Like literally when-she-walks-into-a-room-the-odds-are-that-she’s-the-cutest-girl-in-there-and-it’s-been-that-way-since-she-was-three kind of hot. And she doesn’t have to put up with someone who won’t talk to her because literally any other man on the planet will.
So IDK what do you guys think.