OT New Random Thread Pt. 3

[Ashley]

do you put wedding shower gifts on the registry....?

granted i did not have a bridal shower, didnt see the need for one since i was having a small wedding compared to most.
i also didnt have an extravagant bachelorette party though either like most people do these days. (my sister and her husband and his older siblings forced me to go out and get drunk two days before) Uber officially hates me because of that night now too. LOL.

It's the same registry. People can buy off of it for the shower or wedding. Or not.

 

[omgitssydthekid]

It's the same registry. People can buy off of it for the shower or wedding. Or not.

If you give a gift at the shower, do you bring one to the wedding too? I'm just now entering the age where my friends are getting married and everything is so confusing (I'll be going to my fourth "friend" wedding this year)


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[UCFKnights07]

If you give a gift at the shower, do you bring one to the wedding too? I'm just now entering the age where my friends are getting married and everything is so confusing (I'll be going to my fourth "friend" wedding this year)


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i would say it wouldnt be necessary to give a gift at both.

 

[Ashley]

If you give a gift at the shower, do you bring one to the wedding too? I'm just now entering the age where my friends are getting married and everything is so confusing (I'll be going to my fourth "friend" wedding this year)


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I usually do, but it's not necessary. The shower gift is usually a lot smaller and if I have other friends and family going, I'll often go in on a gift with them.

 

[omgitssydthekid]

@UCFKnights07 @Ashley that makes sense. I assumed it wasn't required, but going in on a gift for the shower is a good idea! Thanks [emoji2]


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[omgitssydthekid]

@UCFKnights07 @Ashley that makes sense. I assumed it wasn't required, but going in on a gift for the shower is a good idea! Thanks [emoji2]


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[njallday]

If you give a gift at the shower, do you bring one to the wedding too? I'm just now entering the age where my friends are getting married and everything is so confusing (I'll be going to my fourth "friend" wedding this year)


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I always pick something small off the registry for a shower and also try to do something else monogrammed or more personal for friends. As a bridesmaid, we usually choose the largest thing and split it. And then write a check at the wedding. I've never been married, but have been a bridesmaid 10.5 times so I feel like I can speak on it lol

 

[omgitssydthekid]

I always pick something small off the registry for a shower and also try to do something else monogrammed or more personal for friends. As a bridesmaid, we usually choose the largest thing and split it. And then write a check at the wedding. I've never been married, but have been a bridesmaid 10.5 times so I feel like I can speak on it lol

10.5 times?? That's crazy! You might just be the expert haha. If I'm actually in someone's wedding party more than five times, I would be genuinely shocked. And three of those times would be for my sisters haha (but technically only one biological sister and two friends that my family considers family, and vise versa).

I've never written a check for the wedding because I felt weird doing that, I've always bought something off the registry but it seems like it's much more common (and way easier) to write a check.


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[Ashley]

10.5 times?? That's crazy! You might just be the expert haha. If I'm actually in someone's wedding party more than five times, I would be genuinely shocked. And three of those times would be for my sisters haha (but technically only one biological sister and two friends that my family considers family, and vise versa).

I've never written a check for the wedding because I felt weird doing that, I've always bought something off the registry but it seems like it's much more common (and way easier) to write a check.

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It really depends on where you live. I don't think it's quite as common down South to write a check as it is in the North East.

 

[CheerBank]

If you give a gift at the shower, do you bring one to the wedding too? I'm just now entering the age where my friends are getting married and everything is so confusing (I'll be going to my fourth "friend" wedding this year)


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I get something off the registry for the shower, then give $ for the wedding. As @Ashley said, the shower gift is tyoically less than the wedding present.

 

[njallday]

10.5 times?? That's crazy! You might just be the expert haha. If I'm actually in someone's wedding party more than five times, I would be genuinely shocked. And three of those times would be for my sisters haha (but technically only one biological sister and two friends that my family considers family, and vise versa).

I've never written a check for the wedding because I felt weird doing that, I've always bought something off the registry but it seems like it's much more common (and way easier) to write a check.


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.5 for making it to the shower and then the groom canceling the wedding/relationship immediately after.

Like @Ashley said it does vary regionally. The Northeast definitely does things more extravagantly and expensively.

 

[CheerBank]

.5 for making it to the shower and then the groom canceling the wedding/relationship immediately after.

Like @Ashley said it does vary regionally. The Northeast definitely does things more extravagantly and expensively.

A little off topic but there's a lot of discussion right now on our community Facebook page about what to give to a teacher as an end of the year present (fortunately my youngest is in middle school so I can just read this debate and laugh since none of it applies). Every teacher who has commented has said they prefer gift cards and you still see parents talk about buying "cute" personalized stuff for the teachers. I want to chime in "just buy them the #%^* gift card they've said they wanted" but I don't feel like facing the wrath of those parents.

 

[Beans100]

My brother is getting married soon. And I have no idea what to do for gifts, so this is very helpful. I wanted to do something special for their wedding gift, but I'm not sure. I was considering sending them on another couple's trip since they like to travel so much. Yay or nay?

 

[WinstonsGirl]

Gifts are never required, so you don't have to give a wedding gift. That said, the point of a bridal shower is to 'shower' the bride with gifts, so if you are invited and going, you should bring a gift. You don't have to give a gift at a wedding, and should never be expected from guests, but it's nice if you choose to do so. Cash/GC's/monetary stuff should never be requested for showers as they are reserved for physical gifts. However, people sometimes will. It's not really etiquette-cool though. If you don't want any physical gifts, have a bridal luncheon or similar, so you can still get together with your friends/family, but the expectation of gifts is gone.

I have heard that a lot of people give gifts at the shower and cash at the wedding, though personally, I always give gifts at both. I'm not comfortable giving cash.

 

[cheermomforever]

I oversee weddings from May to Oct. I would say I can count on one hand usually the number of actual gifts that r given to the couple. Envelopes r the norm.
As for the go fund me for a honeymoon, no and no. Have a smaller less expensive wedding instead.


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