All-Star Frustrated With Cheer Princess

[proudmom]

Not really feeling the princess lately. More like a drama queen! CP got the tuck and then fell out of it! Yes it hurt but now she's scared and hanging onto it. I feel like backing off will just give her no motivation to progress especially since she's 4.2 this year. She's been in the same tumbling spot for 2 years. I know she has to want it but I also know when her friends progress beyond her she will be a royal pain in the butt due to jealousy. Don't know how to deal with her. Others have advice that have navigated this?

 

[Angelica]

Is she in privates? Maybe she needs some one on one attention

 

[proudmom]

Yes she is but she still won't do it. She says she will and then bails on the tuck. So they work other skills to build confidence them come back to it and she bails again. She's been asking for a spot or just a coach to stand next to her for months. I feel like its always been fear and the fall reinforced it. But good lord it didn't kill her! Buck up girl!

 

[proudmom]

Sorry for the typos. Fat fingers and iPhone don't mix!

 

[WorkToWin]

If it is a mental block it will NOT help to get mad at her or even motivating her.

 

[proudmom]

Got it! I will be quiet! Even if I have to bite my own tongue off. I just worry she won't come back from it. This cheer mon business is tough.

 

[proudmom]

Omg! Fat fingers....spell check help me out!

 

[cheermeup]

Debbie Love has some great stuff about mental blocks on her website. I think it's called for the love of tumbling. My daughter had a block and I talked to her about it when my other daughter was in one of her classes. Debbie said the will to overcome the block has to come from the kid. Maybe she will get motivated by her friends gaining new skills. How old is she? If she is a teen than you talking to her about it may become a sore spot in your relationship. My daughter never got over her block but i told her that it was her life and I supported her no matter what.

 

[Angelica]

Just have as much patience as you can. Oneday it will all click and she will do it ! I think it's great that you care and are so involved!! Best of luck to your cp!!

 

[proudmom]

Thanks everyone. She is 14. I just want to do the right thing and support her. But Teens can be lazy so I didnt know if I should push. I asked some of her friends on higher levels to talk to her and they all said "she's scared". Yeah I know!

 

[hannahx0xbananaa]

Thanks everyone. She is 14. I just want to do the right thing and support her. But Teens can be lazy so I didnt know if I should push. I asked some of her friends on higher levels to talk to her and they all said "she's scared". Yeah I know!

i would discourage talking to any of her friends especially about this kind of thing. coming from a teen i know if my mom ever talked to my friends they would most likely tell me about it & i would be upset if i found out my mom even asked them.

like you said above this cheer mom business is tough but i think you're doing a great job by being concerned & trying to figure out what's best. she'll come around especially if she knows that while it might be tough to get over, you'll always be her #1 fan. good luck

 

[NJ Coach]

Don't push. If she's a teen, even asking her about it is going to annoy her lol. Support and encourage. She'll come back to the tuck. It's not a natural thing to tumble. Her brain is telling her that it's dangerous, and falling probably just confirmed that in her mind. Her coaches are doing what they're supposed, working other skills to build her confidence. As long as she keeps tumbling, she'll work herself out of it. It's so easy to want to say "get over it" (trust me, I think it plenty of times in various situations), but until she learns to turn her brain off, she's going to struggle with it.

Keep doing the mom thing, let her know that it's ok. She'll get there.

 

[cheerisloving]

I have a standing tuck mental block that I have been dealing with for at least a year. Its a day by day thing. Debbie Loves suggestion about visualizing it at night and finding out how she learns (auditory, linguistic or visually) maybe helpful. For example I say, "Up, tuck,open and land." And I can do it with an extremley light spot. It's hard and it is like breaking out of a fear as a child. Once she gets she can do it, she will.

 

[cheerisloving]

Don't push. If she's a teen, even asking her about it is going to annoy her lol. Support and encourage. She'll come back to the tuck. It's not a natural thing to tumble. Her brain is telling her that it's dangerous, and falling probably just confirmed that in her mind. Her coaches are doing what they're supposed, working other skills to build her confidence. As long as she keeps tumbling, she'll work herself out of it. It's so easy to want to say "get over it" (trust me, I think it plenty of times in various situations), but until she learns to turn her brain off, she's going to struggle with it.

Keep doing the mom thing, let her know that it's ok. She'll get there.

Basically summed up my life. 14 is when I really started airborne tumbling and honestly the fact that I was aware of the dangers, was one contributing factor to the block.

 

[xoxbeastbackspotxox]

I fell out of a robhs (dumb I know) and I had the worst mental block in the history of the world and for a long time I wouldn't even throw runnings ESPECIALLY not with the instructor that was spotting me when I fell. The one thing that really helped me was my mom being very patient and supportive and also in our merger I started to work with a different instructor. Sometimes all you need is one on one (privates). Hope this helps